Ask Auntie Artichoke

Expert on Parenting and Family Relationships

Ask Auntie Artichoke - Expert on Parenting and Family Relationships

Mean Girls & Tough Boys–Bullying At Any Age (EXPERT)

Tough boys and Mean girls have always been around. Bullying is a catch-all phrase for an imbalance of power or strength that is either real or perceived. There is a potential for the greater power to intentionally threaten or harm the weaker one. This power struggles usually takes place over a sustained period of time and has the potential to escalate into violence. Bullying can harm indivduals, families, schools and communties. For more information please see http://www.cyberbullyinghelp.com

Does My Son Have An Eating Disorder?

Does Your Son Have An Eating Disorder? Often people think of anorexia and a vision of a girl pops into our mind. However, there are many young men who also suffer from poor body image and develop eating disorders. This article contains tips to spot an eating disorder with your son and methods to overcome and prevent it. Get the facts on eating issues and disorders here. You will be glad you did. http://www.AskAuntieArtichoke.com

What Should Be First Foods For Babies?

When to begin solid food for babies is a question many parents wonder about. Breast milk is the perfect choice of nourishment and most doctors and successful mothers suggest sticking just with breast milk for at least six months. Learn more about parenting and family relationships at http://www.AskAuntieArtichoke.com

Devastating Injury: How To Combat The Whirlpool of Why Me?

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Devastating Injury: How To Combat The Whirlpool of Why Me?

If you’ve experienced an injury, you may find yourself sidetracked by pain and depression. Whether your injury is long-term or short, it’s common to be plagued by feelings of anxiety, despair, and the “why me” syndrome. The following tips can help you get back on the road to recovery.

Seek Help from Friends and Family

An injury can cause severe emotional and physical pain, especially if the injuries are serious. It can be especially bothersome if you’re out of work for a long period of time. Family, friends and other loved ones can help pick up the slack and offer their physical assistance through these difficult times. This could include running errands, meals and financial help.

Having someone to talk to when the going gets most difficult can also prove beneficial. Try to seek out professional and legal assistance when it comes to dealing with your feelings regarding your injury. These resources can greatly impact your road to recovery.

Psychological Assistance

A therapist can provide professional and knowledgeable assistance through a difficult injury. Feelings of loneliness and insecurity can allow your depression to skyrocket. However, good communication throughout the entire process can be good for your physical and emotional well-being. It can also contribute to a successful recovery. It may even help to discuss your plight with other individuals who are in a similar situation. Your therapist may have ideas on the best support groups necessary in order to deal with your pain and frustration.

Get Moving

While you may be sidelined with pain and depression, a physical therapist can help you through the discomfort. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, a physical therapist can offer exercises that can help speed up the recovery process. A healthy diet and exercise go hand-in-hand, so you can concentrate on foods that can fight inflammation and depression. Some excellent sources include fruits, vegetables, low-fat dairy, whole-grains, nuts and fish. Water is also a great resource that can help boost your mood and nurture your heart and soul.

Legal Help

A personal injury attorney can aid a worker in their recovery by ensuring that they receive the type of compensation for their work related injuries. This is especially important if you’re the breadwinner of the family, and you have bills to pay. The legal process in regards to an injury can pose some serious challenges, and you may need to keep on top of physician visits, receipts, doctor’s reports and claims. You may also be at a loss in regards to the rules and regulations involved with this type of injury. A personal injury attorney can be your source of comfort throughout the process, so you can concentrate on making a full recovery. This can also alleviate the stress and depression that often accompanies a workers comp injury.

Being out of work after an accident can be hard for an individual, especially if a painful injury accompanies the loss. Symptoms to look out for include feelings of despair, hopelessness, irritability, fatigue and sadness. Your physician can offer suggestions to help conquer your work-related depression. While medication can’t alleviate the problems, it can help you deal with severe pain that may be clouding your outlook on your recovery. In addition to a physician, a personal injury attorney can help you reap the costs associated with your accident, so you can focus on leading a better life.

Helping her husband through the mental and physical rehabilitation after suffering an ischemic stroke, Nadine Swayne understands the depths of despair an injury can cause and offers this information.
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How To Brake Your Teen’s Speeding!

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How To Brake Your Teen’s Speeding!

Handing your teenager the keys to the car can be a conflicting experience. You want your teenager to learn how to drive safely and know how to handle a car while on the road. At the same time, you want to protect your child from the dangers that come with driving on today’s roadways. A significant part of this learning process involves teaching your child to obey the posted speed limit. Getting a speeding ticket can be costly and put a dent in your teenager’s driving record. When you want to put a brake on your teen driver’s propensity for speeding, you can use these methods to your parental advantage.

Implement a Driving Contract

Many parents today use a driving contract to keep their young drivers on the right side of the law. A typical contract states that a teenager will obey the speed limit and have privileges withheld for every infraction of this rule. You may allow for a first-time offense simply because even the best of drivers sometimes forget the posted speed limit or forget to slow down in key places like school or construction zones. Even so, when you implement a driving contract and enforce it fully, you could curb your teen’s temptation to speed.

Enroll in Traffic School

Driver’s education classes and a traffic school course can differ in key ways. Driver’s education that is offered at most high schools tends to encompass many important lessons in the span of a few weeks and arguably protects students from some of the harsher realities of driving too fast. Traffic school, however, is typically held outside of the public education system and therefore is not held to the same coddling standards as high school classes. If you want your teen to see pictures and videos of what happens after a speed-induced wreck, you could enroll them in traffic school and expose your teen to a more thorough approach to learning how to drive safely.

Know the Legal Remedies for Speeding

Your teen arguably will never learn to drive within the posted limit if you them to continue without any consequences. Rather than pay the fines for this infraction yourself, for example, you should have your teen pay the ticket by using their own allowance or paycheck.

However, sometimes your teen may genuinely be innocent and be wrongfully ticketed for this offense. Cameras that are posted on traffic lights supposedly catch drivers who go to fast or breeze through red lights. If your teen has been wrongfully charged, you should hire a lawyer to evaluate the evidence and help your child avoid being fined or punished in court. Throughout this process, it is key that you include your teenager and rely on whatever evidence your child has to support their claim of innocence.

Before you allow your child out onto the road and into busy traffic, however, you should know the best ways to put the brake on your teen’s speeding. These methods could spare you a lot of worry and your family a lot of expense in paying traffic tickets.

Nadine Swayne knows how hard it is for parents to adjust to their teen driving. It can be a nerve-wracking time for all but instilling rules and consequences will hopefully curb any errant driving habits.

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5 Great Bike Safety Apps Every Parent Should Get!

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5 Great Bike Safety Apps Every Parent Should Get!

Today’s technological apps can make learning fun for your children. They are also equipped to keep your child safe whether they are navigating an open trail or traveling to and from school via the street. The following are five great safety apps every parent should download.

1. Bike Safety

If you’re looking for your child to learn the basic rules, the Bike Safety app is great for road users. Here you’ll learn everything from the correct way to cross the street and how to understand the various road signs. Your child can also gain confidence through this app by learning about the correctly clothing for better visibility and safety. Sharing the road with other cars and riders can prove dangerous if you don’t know what to do. To ensure that you avoid collisions and prevent unnecessary injuries, the Bike Safety app has current laws and rules for both children and adults.

2. Bike Smart and Walk Smart

Whether your child is a novice or expert bike rider, accidents and injuries can still occur. Fortunately, a technological company has come up with specific applications to help prevent childhood injuries. Designed for children between the ages of 5 and 9, Bike Smart and Walk Smart hopes to teach children core bicycle skills through game based animated videos. The quizzes and tests also provide immediate feedback.

3. Bicycle Run

If your child is looking to hone their skills on a bicycle, Bicycle Run is a fun and exciting way to competitively race with their friends and family members. In addition to basic trails, the app allows you to navigate hills and different terrain in hopes of making your child a better rider.

4. Bike Repair HD

Your child’s safety is of the highest priority whether they are heading off to school or a friend’s house to play. In addition to knowing the rules of the road and basics in bike safety, your child’s bike needs to run properly. This includes everyday problems such as flat tires, a busted chain and lackluster brakes. Bike Repair HD has close to 38 guides with over 50 problems experienced by bicycle riders. The app will also teach your child solutions to some basic problems using an easy to understand guide.

5. Amber Alert GPS

While you may think you live in a safe neighborhood, certain dangers do exist and can prove harmful to your child. Bike riding is an important activity for children. Fortunately, the Amber Alert GPS system works with your child’s cellphone to alert you of your child’s whereabouts. If they venture outside of the parameters that you deem safe or get into an accident, the app notifies you via email or text alert. It can also send an alert if your child comes within 500 feet of a registered sex offender’s residence. There’s also the SOS feature that allows them immediate access to help in case of an emergency.

Outdoor activities are important to your child’s health and wellness. It can also help combat childhood obesity and diabetes. While bike riding can be an excellent way for them to get exercise, it can also put them at risk for injuries. Fortunately, protecting your child through bike safety and education can prove helpful when you utilize the above smartphone apps.

As a child, freelance writer Nadine Swayne rode her bike for miles with friends. Fortunately, that was a different time in the world when things were a little safer. Nowadays, parents must have an eagle eye on their children, even during simple activities such as riding a bike or at the playground. These cellphone apps will certainly help to ease a parent’s minds on their child’s safety.
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Thank you for being part of our community of kind, thoughtful people who have respect for all.  Be sure to claim your  free download and find out how to have Judy Helm Wright aka “Auntie Artichoke” speak at your next convention or in-service.  You can contact her at http://www.judyhwright.com. You will be glad you did.

 

 

How To Have The “Talk” .. With Your New Teen Driver

Buying a new (old) car for a new driver is harder than you would think?

How To Have The “Talk” .. With Your New Teen Driver

Driving is a privilege that your teen should never enter into lightly. However, with the right amount of education, communication and discipline for rules that get broken, you can ensure that your teen is responsible and knowledgeable enough to get behind the wheel of a car.

Drivers Education Courses

Driver’s education courses are designed to teach your teen driver how to navigate the open roadway, no matter what Mother Nature seems to throw their way. It’s also beneficial in educating them on the rules, laws and guidelines. In addition to driver’s education, spending additional time with your child practicing can help them to become a confident and successful driver. It can also garner them significant discounts when it comes to registering them on your car insurance.

Drinking and Driving Don’t Mix

It’s important to keep the lines of communication open when it comes to your teen. This includes relaying the importance of never drinking and driving. In addition to the property damage, your child could get injured or take the lives of innocent victims by driving under the influence. The repercussions of a DUI can be far reaching and include fines, lawsuits, jail time, the loss of college and future employment opportunities. It may also prove beneficial to have them sit in on a Mother’s Against Drunk Drivers (MADD) meeting to get the full effect of the harm that drinking and driving can do to a person.

Roadside Safety Apps

A well-maintained vehicle can help ensure that your teen driver is safe on the road. You can also secure their safety by enrolling them as members of AAA and having them download apps. This allows them immediate emergency roadside assistance if their vehicle gets a flat tire, runs out of gas or experiences some kind of mechanical failure. Your insurance provider may also have a special app that allows them immediate contact in case of an emergency. This can provide you both with peace of mind knowing that they aren’t stranded on a desolate road.

ICE Parents

Whether you’re involved in an accident or an unexpected emergency arises, you need to ensure that your child is prepared to handle any emergency. A charged cellphone can help your teen seek emergency assistance. It also helps to have in case of emergency (ICE) contacts at the ready in the contact area of phone in case a state trooper or hospital needs to make contact with an adult. This can include parental cellphone and home numbers, insurance company, friends and family members.

Distracted Driving

One of the leading causes of death among teens is distracted driving. Laws are in place to help limit the number of teens that are able to ride in a car together. However, technological devices such as cellphones and notepads can also hinder a teen driver’s ability to focus. That’s why it’s important to teach your teen to tuck their phone away until they arrive at their destination.

Teaching your child to become a responsible driver falls on the shoulders of the parents. From drivers education courses and practice to refraining from drinking and driving and knowing what to do in case of an emergency, it’s important to impart some serious wisdom before you pass the keys over to your child.

Knowing how scary the thought of a teen driving for the first time is for parents, Nadine Swayne offers these “peace of mind’ points of information. Preparing your teen for driving can be a daunting and worrisome but, on the long road, a necessary step in keeping them safe.

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Thank you for being part of our community of kind, thoughtful people who have respect for all.  Be sure to claim your  free download and find out how to have Judy Helm Wright aka “Auntie Artichoke” speak at your next convention or in-service.  You can contact her at http://www.judyhwright.com. You will be glad you did.

Teaching & Modeling Empowerment (EXPERT)

How does a parent, grandparent, mentor or teacher model empowerment and confidence to the kids in their circle of influence?

The primary way anything is taught to children is through modeling. We show them the behavior we desire.  From the time they are infants, children are constantly watching and mimicking what we do and say.

They May Not Do What You Say, But What You Do

If there is a discrepancy between what we do and what we say, they learn a whole different lesson than what we set out to teach.  If you are giving your child a lecture on lying, then the phone rings and you tell him to say you aren’t home if it is your crazy Aunt Mabel, which behavior do you think he will adapt in his life?

The most important way to convey the lessons of encouragement, empowerment and confidence is to show them how to behave, or model the behavior.  The most effective way to teach your child he or she has the power to take positive action and make changes in behavior is to allow them to see you work through challenges.  We need to walk the walk, and guide them to persist in the process of a lifelong learning experience.

Teach Problem Solving

Teach and mentor others something that will improve their lives.  Sometimes just a word or gesture that shows you have confidence in their ability to problem solve gives them courage to move forward. Help them to achieve goals they can’t reach by themselves.  Empower them to succeed.

Every situation has at least five solutions.  Help them to help themselves in all areas of life. Encourage them to look at a problem from different angles and perspectives.

Acknowledge & Appreciate Success

Many of the people in your life who are top performers may be limiting their effectiveness because they don’t realize just how good they are. The greatest gift we can do for others is not to share our riches but to reveal theirs.

confidence, empowerment, problem solving, Judy Helm Wright, Auntie Artichoke, EXPERT,

Children will not always do what you say, but usually will do what you do. Model confidence

At a recent parenting class I was talking about discovering the accomplishments of their children. The goal was to have them recognize their own strengths, skills and talents. I started with a ball thrown to a participant with the instruction to yell out something they were good at and then throw the ball to another person.

Surprisingly, many of the participants had great difficulty recognizing and acknowledging their own special talents.  It took some gentle prodding and suggestions from others for them to see themselves in a new and powerful light.

Once we got going it was much easier to recognize that not everyone can make delicious chocolate chip cookies.  It is a skill to be able to be able to return an item to a store that not everyone has.  It takes someone special to be able to bring peace to a conflict at work.

Part of empowering others is to make sure we recognize and applaud our own accomplishments.  Many have been taught to not get “a big head” or that “that’s not so special.”  We need to help them reveal to themselves and others what great gifts they have been given.

 

Third Party Credibility

 

I remember hearing the phrase “Criticize in private, Praise in public” and it really seemed like a good idea to incorporate in my business and personal life.  Since the word criticize has some bad connotations for me, I prefer to use the word feedback or mentor.

You will find more about that philosophy in my parenting book How to Discipline Without Damage.

Whenever you get a chance to brag about someone do it.  That is called third party credibility and carries a lot of weight.  How do I know?  Because I leave reviews on YELP, recommendations on Angie’s list and write testimonials for people I do business with.

Don’t allow your children, friends and associates to dismiss or ignore a success.  Reveal their victories to them by documenting success on performance reviews or testimonials on Linked In or YELP. Send them a note of congratulations. Post a Hurrah on Facebook. Let them know that you noticed and were impressed with their success.

It takes so little time to empower and encourage others and yet many would prefer to be part of the destruction crew rather than the builders and enhancers of others.  I have never quite got why so many people will cheer for their team to win a football game but won’t give their own kid a high-five and an atta-boy.

Self-Awareness Quiz

  1. Do you acknowledge your own successes out loud and in your mind?  Practice saying “Yay Me.”
  2. Do you share the success of others in public by compliments, reviews and testimonials?
  3. Do you model confidence in finding solutions and assuming your own power?

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