Ask Auntie Artichoke » Weblogs http://www.askauntieartichoke.com Expert on Parenting and Family Relationships Mon, 09 Jan 2012 17:51:25 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 Relationships – First Impressions http://www.askauntieartichoke.com/posts/relationships-first-impressions/ http://www.askauntieartichoke.com/posts/relationships-first-impressions/#comments Wed, 07 Oct 2009 19:41:42 +0000 Judy H. Wright http://www.askauntieartichoke.com/?p=255 Relationships are the basis for all of life. We are all interdependent on each other. This means that we rely on others for mutual assistance, support, cooperation or interaction. When we meet someone for the first time we disclose much about who and what we are.

First impressions form the basis for the relationship. Verbally and non-verbally we tell others who we are through our dress, gestures, expressions and manner of speaking.  The other person makes a judgment in the first three seconds on whether to build a relationship with you or avoid you in the future.

First Impressions Give Clues to Personality

When two people come together in a personal or professional relationship, they are constantly trying to prove or disprove their first impression.  If their initial reaction is that you are sloppy, uncouth and a little rude, you will have your work cut out for you to prove that you just came from painting a widow’s home and you were tired and grouchy because you had not eaten.

Second Chance at First Impression

If you recognize you gave a false first impression and you want to build the relationships of those you have come in contact with, simply apologize and ask for a second chance.  It is amazing, but everyone wants to help the person who acknowledges a mistake and asks for another chance.

People with deep and lasting relationships may be introverts, extroverts, young, old, smart, dull but the one characteristic they have in common is the ability to be open and honest.

WUSIWYG

It is called transparency and has been in the news a lot lately, but what it really means is; What you see is what you get. In order to develop this transparency and to be a vital part of an on going interdependent relationship with another person, just be yourself.

And if you screw up the first time, try it again.

I have confidence in you.

If you would like to have more confidence in yourself and overcome social anxiety, you will want to go to http://www.EncourageSelfConfidence.com

You will be glad you did.

Fondly,

Judy H. Wright aka Auntie Artichoke, family relationship author and keynote speaker

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My team just returned from Los Angeles where we attended Eben Pagan's Guru BootCamp for Internet Marketers. It was a very intense learning experience with lots of networking and sharing with other participants.

How People Learn

As we did small group exercises and shared our insights, it was amazing to me to see how different people had perceived and integrated the same message. Perhaps you have experienced this same feeling of being on information overload.

When our team reviewed our notes in the hotel room, each of us had gleaned individual learning of nuggets of wisdom from the same conference.

Eben talked about the different styles of learning, but they were different than the ones I learned in early education training.  His styles certainly make sense and especially in a subject area as complex as internet marketing.

Because adults are scanning more and reading less, it is important to address key components of the subject in a way they will learn with.

His research has indicated the four main types of learners.  How we learn is typically how we teach.

  1. Those that need the Why. These learners are only motivated by the outcome they desire or to avoid a pain.  This is about 1/3 of the population.
  2. Those learners that need to find out about What.  They are abstract thinkers, like the stories and statistics.They want to know about your subject but from a logical place of reference. Most college professors and teachers are What learners.
  3. How to learners  want a recipe, formula and steps to follow. In the children I work with, these are the ones that cannot break down something like "clean the kitchen" but must have action steps to accomplish the big goal.
  4. The next group of learners are like me.  I want to know What's Next?  Those of you who learn as I do want to take what you have learned and put it into action. (hmmmm, hence the blog post) This learner is typically an action learner, entrepreneur, and problem solver. 

 

 How Do You Learn Best at Conferences

Did you see the method of learning that fits your personality? Are you more aware of how to listen for the parts that resonate with you?

A learning conference of 400 people can be overwhelming.  Now that I have learned the best way to market my message, I will be able to teach more effectively by including…
  • Why 
  • What 
  • How to 
  • What's next 

Because I am a keynote speaker, it is important to me to reach every member of the audience and touch their heart.

True Learning Takes Place When We Have Action

Knowledge is empty without action, feedback and tweaking to incorporate something new into our lives and change for the better. So will you take the information presented here  today and share your thoughts with this community of kind, thoughtful and supportive people?

In gratitude,

Judy H. Wright aka Auntie Artichoke


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