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The Mind Body Connection – Getting Over A Near-Fatal Accident

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The Mind Body Connection – Getting Over A Near-Fatal Accident

A person becomes very aware of how fragile life is when they experience a near-fatal accident. The life-threatening injuries, the extensive recovery period and the emotional pain that you experience during this type of event are enough to change your outlook on life. However, it is important that the change in opinion you have is for the better.

In many cases, when a person experiences this type of trauma, their natural reaction is to close themselves off from life. They are so afraid of what may happen to them that they do not want to leave their home or interact with others. This is not a good thing. It may be necessary for the person to receive professional counseling in order to get past this trauma.

An experienced personal injury lawyer will fight hard to ensure that you receive the compensation that you need to take care of your physical and emotional pain. A good way to find a local attorney is by doing a local Internet search like auto wreck lawyer in West Virginia, or Atlanta auto accident attorney.

Experiencing this type of event is life changing. However, there are steps that every person must go through to gain a full recovery. It is important to get through each step and not get stuck.

1. Denial. The first step is to be in complete denial of what has just happened in your life. You do not want to believe that you almost lost your life. You do not want to accept the severity of your injuries. You do not want to believe that everything has changed.

2. Anger. When the realization of what has happened actually sets in, it is natural to become angry. It can also be associated to the condition of PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). Why did this happen to me? Why did it have to be so bad? This is just not fair. It is a natural step in the healing process.

3. Fear. Once you have passed the anger stage, it is also very natural to enter into the fear stage. Also known as “What If,” and you begin to question everything. At this point you also may start placing limitations on yourself to prevent anything from happening again. The scenario may go something like: What if I get into another car accident again and it is worse? Maybe I should not get into a car anymore. These limitations can consume and ruin a life.

4. Gratitude. When you finally overcome the fear phase, you become very grateful that you actually survived the car accident. You acquire a new appreciation for life and for everything else. It is at this point that you can move on from this terrible event and reclaim your life.

Going through these phases will take different lengths of time for each person. We all know that everyone is different, and the experience and reaction will be different. However, everybody that does experience this must accept the fact that if they are “stuck” in one mind frame too long before they reach the acceptance phase, they may need some help.

Love and support from family and friends will help you get through this very difficult time. But if you are struggling with the emotional healing from this serious type of accident, you should seek help from a professional. If you find that your family and friends are making this request, because it is sometimes not easy to see in ourselves, take their advice and get the emotional support and therapy that you need.

A near death accident is enough to change anyone. However, it does not have to make things worse. Coming to terms with the event and finally re-finding your appreciation and gratitude for life is the only way to completely heal from this type of event.

Nadine Swayne is a freelance writer who researches traumatic car accidents. She has found an auto wreck lawyer in West Virginia that addresses the emotional toil that a car accident can take on an individual and their family. They recommend that you do not take the first offer from an insurance company but that you take the time to assess all of your damages: financial, physical and emotional.

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Learning Disabled Teens & Teasing (EXPERT)

Learning Disabled Teens And Teasing – No Easy Answers

Expert Author Judy H. Wright

Parents, teachers, extended family and neighbors recognize the special challenges of those who love and teach learning disabled children and adults. They are usually sensitive, kind and giving as small children. Because they are small in stature, people are more forgiving of what they can and cannot do.

Teenagers With Learning Disabilities

However, as these cute little kids grow into teens and adults, they have accelerated difficulties. He/she is still very dependent, while becoming harder to control, guide and teach. The skills may be delayed, but the body and hormones are changing daily. A LD teen may not understand or confuse many aspects of life when in social situations. Sensitive to others anyway, this teen may react negatively to any correction or criticism. What may have started out as casual banter, may be interpreted as hurtful teasing.

Learning disabilities can make the social scene very hard for teens.

Brain disorders are expressed in many strange ways, included a frenzy of hyperactivity. This hyperactivity may irritate the very people the teen is hoping to attract as friends.

Teens With Learning or Physical Disability May Become Target of Teasing

As I have said in many of the previous posts and articles-bullying and teasing is about power. The bully looks for someone who can be manipulated or humiliated in order to make himself/herself feel more important. The majority of learning disable adolescents do not have social skills and the ability to communicate in order to stop the teasing. Self esteem and confidence is not easy to come by in any teenager, but may be especially lacking in those who have severe physical or learning abilities. The amount of teasing, bullying, name calling and taunting that goes on in Special Ed classes and in the hallways of schools internationally, is overwhelming. This is especially true in junior high and high school when independence is encouraged and tattling is discouraged.

What Should Teachers and Parents Do

Kindness and empathy for others hopefully is an on-going conversation in your home and classroom. Help all children, but especially those that have learning and social difficulties, to determine if it is a big problem or a small problem. If it is a small problem help them come up with techniques or ideas to solve it themselves. If it is a big problem, which involves safety, help them to communicate either with the bully or with an adult. Tattling is to get someone in trouble. Telling is to save someone from harm.

Self Awareness Quiz

1. What do you think when you see a learning disabled teen?

2. Do you feel that you have nothing in common?

3. Would you step up and intervene or find help if you saw someone being teased?

4. Do you agree with the difference between tattling and telling?

5. Can you decide what is a big problem and what is a small problem in life?

You are a smart and strong person and I have confidence you will find good solutions to help support not only learning disabled teens, but others who are being teased and bullied. Be sure to claim your free report about bullying at

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Surprising Dangers of Prescription Drug Dependency And Your Family

Surprising Dangers of Prescription Drug Dependency And Your Family

Lately, whenever you read the news, it seems that another Hollywood celebrity has just entered or just returned from rehab because he or she was addicted to prescription medication. Surprisingly, prescription drug addiction is dangerous, and much more common than you may realize. It is something that affects many people – not just celebrities.

Many prescription drugs are habit-forming and addictive. Medicines from painkillers to sleeping pills to ADHD drugs such as Ritalin, are all common forms of pills that anyone can become dependent upon using. The employment of prescribed medications today is so common, that many times, we don’t think twice about the potential for abuse, misuse, or dependency.

Drug Dependency Can Happen to Anyone

Another danger of becoming dependent on prescription drugs is that it can happen to just about anyone. Elderly people who take many medications may become dependent long-term. Women take more prescribed tranquilizers and mood enhancing pills, so they are more susceptible to addiction than men. Teens are also vulnerable when it comes to drug dependency – especially if they see their parents partaking on a regular basis.

Drug Dependency Can Occur Over Time

When people take prescription medication for pain, for sleeping, or for mood improvements, often they learn to like the effects of these drugs, and feel that they are unable to function without them. In some cases, people may think, “If one pill has this positive effect, then two or more will make me feel even better.” This is a dangerous road that can lead to many complications including physical, emotional, legal and relationship issues.

Effects of Prescription Drug Dependency

Probably the most obvious concerns that people with drug addictions face are physical ones. An abundance of health problems can happen to someone who takes pills every day, including irregular heartbeat, risk of heart attack, seizures, hostility, paranoia, infections and overdose.

All of these risk factors can lead to financial troubles, serious relationship issues with other family members and friends, and legal issues such as getting arrested for stealing or forging prescriptions. “Drug crimes do not just pertain to street drugs. Drug crime laws also address the abuse and misuse of prescription drugs,” says Perhaps even your professional career can be in jeopardy as a result of your performance at work, or because you have missed too many days due to health issues.

Preventing Abuse and Dependency

Thankfully, if you or a loved one is on path toward drug dependency or abuse, there are steps you can take to prevent the consequences of this dangerous road.

1. Speak to your doctor about your concerns. Make sure you let him or her know about all the medication you are taking, how often and how you feel as a result.

2. Follow directions carefully. Never change the dosage on your own, especially if you feel inclined to increase it. Check with your doctor first to make sure you are taking the medication only as prescribed as the proper dosage.

3. Ask your pharmacist about side effects. Always know what type of side effects or primary effects the drugs will have. Make sure you understand completely about potential interactions with other medications or alcohol, too.

4. Never take someone else’s pills. Even if you have the same symptoms, never take someone else’s prescribed medication. Speak to your doctor about your specific condition, as your prescription may be completely different than a friend’s or family member’s.

If you or someone you love is in danger of prescription drug dependency, know that help is available. Speak to your doctor or medical professional, or join a support group as soon as possible.

After watching more than one of her friends go down this unfortunate road, author Molly Pearce decided to write this post in the hopes it might make just one reader think twice. Most of her research for this article was done online, on medical and legal sites, such as The web is a great source of info and support for those struggling with prescription abuse or dependency.

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Teen Headed To College? 5 Off-Campus Housing Tips

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Teen Headed To College? 5 Off-Campus Housing Tips

According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 30 percent of all first-year students live on campus, and an additional 27 percent live off-campus away from their parents. However, when college students are included, from freshmen to seniors, on-campus housing is only utilized by 20 percent of the nationwide student body. 

Clearly a large percentage of students will eventually need off-campus housing. Fortunately, there is a wide variety of rental options available, including houses, but it is essential for students and parents to carefully consider many factors before selecting a place to rent or buy. If the main objective is for the parents to buy a property that the child can use during his college years, and then turn it into an investment property after, you must look at the following points from both sides of the coin, as a lessee and lessor.

Five Things To Look For In Off-Campus Housing

1. Renting or Buying – It is necessary to stay within a reasonable budget, but you also need to consider the fact that each area has an average rental rate. Attempting to go too far below this rate will force students to live in areas that are undesirable. Therefore, you should research the area under consideration. For example, if your college-bound teen wants to attend school in Austin, Texas, you can look up average rental rates online or consult an experienced realtor to help you explore your options and set an appropriate budget. A directory such as Movoto will help you localize the search areas since Austin is home to numerous universities and colleges. As buyers, parents need to look into areas that properties have a history of holding their value.

How about being the landlord instead of the tenant? You could purchase a house near campus, install your son or daughter, and pay off the mortgage by renting rooms to other coeds. This is a great way to house your college student, invest in income property, and generate income long term—as a landlord—or short term—by selling up after your young genius graduates.

2. Solid Security – For most parents facing an empty nest, their child’s safety is as important as their education. Obviously gated apartment complexes with on-site security patrols are preferable for the student and for their parent’s peace of mind. If this is beyond your budget, you can still research the crime statistics online by zip code, and the local police department can give you detailed information about a specific neighborhood. Keep in mind that the cheaper the rent is, the more likely it is that the house or apartment might be located in or near a high crime area. Even if the asking sale price might be affordable, consider how easily or difficult it would be for you to rent to other students in that area.

3. Responsive Landlord – Many people have funny or scary stories from their college years about having rented an apartment from a slumlord. Today, even for the most fearless or adventurous student, that’s simply not a wise option. Signing on the dotted line with an unresponsive landlord can mean signing up for all kinds of headaches: minimal security; poor lighting in hallways; neglected electrical and plumbing repairs; and infrequent trash collection, to name a few. If the student has a car, does the landlord provide safe well-lit parking near the building?

An indifferent absentee landlord can leave students to fend for themselves in a stressful environment, and this is not conducive to proper studying. Look for online reviews of the landlord under consideration. Talk to current tenants about their experiences. Scrutinize the lease carefully before signing.

When you are the landlord, you need to treat your renters in the same way that you would like your own child to be treated. This means taking care of repairs or maintenance in a timely manner and keeping the area safe.

4. Campus Access – Off-campus housing should not involve intensive daily commuting. Simply choosing a nice place to rent in the right city is not enough to ensure that a student will be able to easily access their classes. This is especially true in cases where the student will be relying on public transportation.

Assess the distance between each rental property that you are considering and the closest mode of public transportation that goes near the campus, both buses and trains. What’s the traffic like during rush hour? Are bus stops well lit at night? Do buses run reliably even in the evening? If the subway is involved, how safe and reliable is this service? Does the school provide shuttle service to the area where your child or your future renter will live?

5. Local Amenities – As appetizing as an area with lots of bars and restaurants might be to a college kid, it can spell disaster for their health. Look for communities with basic amenities: a grocery store; a convenience store; and a drug store. Are they all within walking distance? Do any of them offer student discounts? Is there a minimal care clinic nearby in case of emergencies?

As parents, we want the best for our children. A positive college experience is one of them. Where they live plays a huge part in that experience. When you find the perfect housing arrangement for your child, you are helping to make his college years memorable.

Freelance writer Nadine Swayne knows how crucial it is for parents to know what to look for and what questions to raise when shopping for safe off-campus housing for their young charges. Whether renting or buying, a local realtor can relieve some of the stress for parents and child.

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Taking The Kids To See Your Ancestral Grounds

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Taking the Kids to See Your Ancestral Grounds

Traveling abroad with your family is about exploring far off destinations and meeting interesting people. It can also be a great time to visit your ancestral grounds and visit family members who your children may have never met. However, planning a trip to discover your heritage can take careful planning. The following tips will help ease the stress and friction that can often accompany a trip to Europe.

Implement a Plan

Spending time overseas with children can be a nerve-wracking experience for even the most patient of parents. It can also elicit eye rolls and moaning from your teens if you don’t have a thorough agenda. However, the roots of a family are very important and allowing your children to meet distant relatives and explore schools once inhabited by grandparents can be meaningful for everyone involved. You can make the process easier by implementing a plan from flights and hotels to transportation and activities. Packing appropriately can also save you a lot of headaches and grief when traveling with teens.

Getting Around

Transportation and getting around Europe can be especially difficult with a family, especially if you don’t know where you’re going. Shuttle services can allow you an inexpensive option for exploring the sights, sounds and history of a city, while keeping everyone calm and happy. It also alleviates the stress and anxiety caused by getting lost. You can search online sites like Shuttle Direct to get more information on finding and booking shuttle services abroad.

Restaurants and Eateries

Your children may not have as adventurous a palate as your own, so you need to prepare wisely. You can involve them in the process by allowing them to pick out various restaurants or eateries that they would like to explore and try. If you’re meeting relatives and friends, you’re sure to be introduced to foods that are important to the region.

Children are honest about their likes and dislikes. You should teach them the proper etiquette for disliking a specific item they may not be used to, so they don’t offend your hosts or the culture. While people from the European region enjoy dining late, your children may not be used to a later meal time. You can vary the times to accommodate both your children and relatives. This will also prevent tired and cranky moods.


Europe is rich in history, monuments, sculptures and paintings. Witnessing the famous displays from a history book is far different than seeing the actual famous works of art in person. Spend time beforehand discussing the areas you’ll be traveling to. This is also the ideal time to talk about your ancestors and how you’ll be visiting places where they may have grown up, lived and gone to school. You can include your children in the process by allowing them to pick areas of interest that are most special to them.

In order to ease the friction that typically occurs when traveling with children, you’ll want to ensure that everyone has the right mindset. You’ll also want to be ready with a thorough plan, and the right gear. Giving children the opportunity to see where their family roots lie and meet ancestors from foreign lands is a valuable experience they’re sure to take with them forever.

Journalist Nadine Swayne has travel abroad and understands well the challenges facing parents traveling with children. However, she says, never pass up the opportunity to explore your family’s history with your children. There are travel resources available to make your trip enjoyable including visiting sites like Shuttle Direct for travel solutions. 

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Creating A Baby Gift Basket? What You Need To Make It Eco-Friendly

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Creating A Baby Gift Basket? What You Need To Make It Eco-Friendly

If you’re on the lookout for the latest and greatest thing for a baby gift basket, did you know that you can combine both cutting edge with an eco-friendly bent? Keeping the planet healthy for a child’s future is becoming an important factor for many new mommies and daddies these days, and retailers are all too happy to oblige by making their products with less waste, better materials and recyclable. So where does a savvy shopper get started?

Keeping It Eco-Friendly: Smart Buys

If you’re looking to help parents save the planet while raising their offspring, there are many companies who have taken the “going green” ethos to heart, particularly when it comes to baby items. Look for key words such as “organic,” “non-toxic” and “fair-trade” when seeking out earth-friendly products. Additionally, check out these types of products which make great gifts and give you the most planet-friendly bang for your buck.

1.  Dreamy Baby Blankets

Wrapping your baby in a blanket that is naturally antibacterial, hypoallergenic, breathable and moisture-wicking (meaning it moves moisture away from the skin) will make everyone sleep tight. Also make sure it is pesticide-free.

2.  Toxic-Free Baby Bottles

The best baby bottles these days are PBA-free, versatile and completely recyclable. The use of non-toxic materials will make any parent feel good about handing them to their child, and as the baby grows up, some of the bottles can be easily converted to sippy cups. When they’re done, they can share with other parents or simply recycle.

3.  Green Playards and Baby Seats 

For that gift card item in the cute little envelope, parents who are concerned about the materials that touch their baby’s skin every day will love a green, clean new washable playard to help with months of baby care. There are also baby seats that have materials completely free of Brominated Flame Retardants (BFR) which contain potentially harmful contaminants. Some car seat companies also run a recycling program for when baby has outgrown the seat.

4.  New Diaper Fashions

Most parents don’t want to resort to using disposable diapers, but it’s difficult to deny the convenience compared to the cloth variety. Look for diapers that are made with completely organic material, are totally reusable after a wash and leak-proof. Many come in cute styles and colors, making them perfect for the fashion conscious parent as well.

5.  Natural Cleaning Items

Every parent wants to keep their baby and their baby’s play and changing area clean, but many would like to avoid harsh chemicals, focusing on natural ingredients instead. Jessica Alba’s latest venture, for example, offers families a monthly delivery of natural products including diapers, wipes, detergent, shampoo, conditioner, soap and lotions the whole family can use. Better yet, all the products and their packaging are completely recyclable.

There are many chemical-free household cleaning brands safe for baby. Also, using a playard and other multi-purpose baby items with easy to clean surfaces means there is no need for products with harmful chemicals and there is less waste of space.

6.  Organic Baby Food

Many moms and dads are concerned about what goes into their kid’s food, and with good reason. Jarred foods from the grocery store can often contain additives and preservatives that a baby doesn’t need. Baby food should be non-toxic and BPA-free.

Do a Google search to find organic baby food brands and include sites that will instruct parents on making homemade baby foods from ingredients that they know. Making their own food not only insures that their baby is eating organic and well, but can oftentimes be much cheaper as well. You can find blenders specifically designed for this purpose.

Buying green can help to maintain the planet for generations to come. Finding planet-friendly products made of non-toxic materials that are more likely to be fully recyclable may take a little extra effort, but is well worth it, so do your research to find the best products and deals. To save the new parents some valuable time, create a gift basket filled with great eco-friendly products or give them a gift card they can use to shop online with a green retailer.

Nadine Swayne is a freelance writer and green living enthusiast who believes we must all do our part to preserve the planet. She is always looking to purchase gift cards for great items like a washable playard to put into adorable gift baskets.

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Health Factors Shedding Some Understanding of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome


Understanding and Preventing Sudden Infant Death Syndrome

Remembering when my children were newborns, I would not have wanted to imagine the pain and helplessness of laying them down to sleep, and later not being able to wake them up. For many parents, the death of a child is almost too much to bare. Now just imagine if that child died suddenly and without any apparent cause.  Sadly, parents experience this devastation yearly. According to the Center for Disease Control (CDC) there are about 4,000 infants deaths in the United States each year. Its estimated that more than half of those deaths are the result of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome.

Sudden Infant Death Syndrome, more commonly referred to as SIDS, is a medical mystery that causes approximately 2,500 infant deaths in the U.S. every year. Unfortunately, a number of  SIDS cases are associated with babies who were considered to be healthy before their untimely death. Therefore, it is important for parents to educate themselves about the techniques that they can utilize to help reduce their baby’s risk of dying from SIDS.

What are the Main Risk Factors of SIDS?

The majority of SIDS deaths happen while a baby is sleeping. In fact, it is often difficult for medical examiners to find any specific reason for an infant’s death from SIDS aside from the fact that they were asleep. However, SIDS is more likely to occur if the baby has not yet had their first birthday and falls asleep on their stomach.

Parents may not often think about it, but providing a proper sleeping place is very important for a newborn. To help prevent Sudden Infant Death Syndrome medical professional recommend that parents make sure to place their babies on their back to sleep, and do so for the first 12 months of life. When purchasing cribs or baby play yards make sure to follow all safety precautions.

Additionally, there are several other factors that can create an environment that will help SIDS develop. For example, researchers have indicated that exposure to tobacco smoke, being born prematurely, receiving inadequate prenatal care, overheating while sleeping and exposure to drugs, smoking or drinking during pregnancy can all have an impact on whether or not your infant has an increased risk of losing their life to SIDS. It is also important to note that SIDS occurs most often during cold weather, and babies between the ages of two and four months are more likely to succumb to this mysterious medical condition.

Could My Home be Unsafe?

There are several environmental factors that you can introduce into your home environment that could definitely have a negative impact on your infant’s health, including smoking. However, there have been some cases reported that seem to indicate that specific houses and areas have an increased risk of losing babies to SIDS. For example, the Fort Bragg military base lost 10 infants in less than four years who were younger than eight months old. Autopsies indicated that there were no signs of foul play in any of these cases. However, SIDS was only named as the culprit in one of these deaths.

It is important to note that at least two of the infants died while living in the same house. This seems to indicate that there could be something hazardous in the environment of this specific home and perhaps even throughout the entire military housing area. Because of this case study, it is a good idea for parents to research the rate of SIDS cases in any neighborhood that they are considering relocating to. Keep in mind that a low incidence of SIDS in a specific area does not mean that your infant will not be at risk.

The Center for Disease Control (CDC) provides this list of tips to reduce the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome.

1. Always place babies on their backs to sleep.

2. Use the back sleep position every time.

3. Place your baby on a firm sleep surface, such as as a safety-approved crib mattress covered with a fitted sheet.

4. Keep soft objects, toys, and loose bedding out of your baby’s sleep area.

5. Avoid letting your baby overheat during sleep.

The best thing that you can do to reduce your baby’s odds of dying from SIDS is to following the above instructions, ensure that you do not create a home environment for them that contains potential triggers such as cigarette smoke, and remember that your infant should always sleep on their back until they are at least 12 months old.

Veteran Journalist Nicole Bailey-Covin has researched Sudden Infant Death Syndrome and reminds parents to always keep a close eye on their newborns while sleeping. She also reminds parents to follow all safety instructions supplied with both baby play yards and cribs. As scientists continue to study the cause of SIDS, parents should do all they can to maintain a healthy environment for the newborn.

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Your Teen and DUI: Consequences For the Entire Family


Your Teen and DUI: Consequences For the Entire Family

Any situation involving a DUI can have serious repercussions for accused individual. However, this is oftentimes even worse for teenager, as it can also negatively affect not only their future, but their family as well. Though everyone involved would likely wish to put this one “stupid decision” firmly behind them, drunk driving incidents can have an emotional ripple effect on the entire family.

Coping with the aftermath of your teen’s drunk driving incident is difficult enough without taking into consideration the further impact it may have on your family. Your relationship with your spouse can suffer, as can social relationships for both you and your other children. Additionally, there are financial setbacks and future plans that could possibly be severely compromised.

1) Your other children are teased at school.

Whether you live in a large city or a small town, every community has a grapevine. Even if your teen’s DUI wasn’t published in the paper, chances are, word will get around. This could result in your other children being teased by their friends, or their parents even forbidding them to come to your home. Talk to your children about how to handle teasing, and speak to other parents to let them know while you love your teenager, you do not condone their choices and would never let their child come to harm in your home.

2) The legal costs are crippling to your family’s finances.

According to Hofland & Tomsheck, Las Vegas criminal defense attorneys, criminal conviction often carries with it a range of potential consequences that can negatively impact your life forever. This includes exspensive fines can range from $500 to over $2000. From hiring a DUI attorney to court costs and fines, coping with the price can bring a huge amount of debt to a family. This may mean that birthdays and holidays suffer, as well as any planned vacations going out the window. Sit down with your family and be honest about the situation so everyone knows what to expect. While it is disappointing, sticking together during this time is key.

3) Your friends and family think you’re a bad parent.

Parents of teens caught drunk driving can often experience the cold shoulder from other parents, members of their community and even their own family. Coping with feeling “cut off” from your support system can be very depressing for everyone involved. Try to be forthcoming with your friends and family about what has happened, and that your family is trying to cope with a very serious setback. More than likely, there will be people in your circle who have dealt with similar situations who can help.

4) You and your spouse can’t stop arguing.

Stress is an enormous cause of arguments in any relationship, but the stress of a child in trouble can be doubly so. If your teenager is in trouble, it will be natural for you to be angry, and that can sometimes move into picking fights with your spouse or loved one. Try to understand the cause of your anger, and if need be, speak to a professional to counsel you and your family with your issues.

5) Your insurance is through the roof.

Insurance in the United States is expensive enough for most families without having to add a DUI charge to the mix. If your teenager is convicted with an offense or there is damage to your car or injuries, you are likely to see a big jump in your insurance costs. Shop around for your insurance provider and be forthcoming about the cause. Additionally, your teenager should also be asked to contribute towards the insurance with a part-time job.

Communication is important when dealing with the aftermath of a drunk driving charge. However, good communication is key. Take a policy of complete honesty to deal with friends and family, making sure to underline that while you do not agree with what your child did, you are trying to work through it as a family. Sticking together is the most important thing you can do.

Journalist Nicole Bailey-Covin has covered many unfortunate cases where young people have made and sometimes fatal choices in deciding to drink and drive. She encourage parents to talk to their teens and when needed don’t be afraid to monitor their children’s communications and whereabouts.  It is better to be protective and safe, than to look back with regrets.

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Do You Have An Indigo Child? (EXPERT)


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Judy Helm Wright, aka “Auntie Artichoke” is a parent educator and life coach who has worked with families like yours all over the world. Give her a call at 406-549-9813 to schedule a speaking engagement.


Indigo Children- Born to Lead, Hard to Manage, Do you have one at your house?

 Indigo children are children that are not content to color in the lines or glue macaroni on paper. They are very bright but also very active and curious, which can make them hard to keep up with. It often seems like Indigo children are born knowing who and what they are immediately.

What they really need are parents to guide them a little and keep them safe until they are grown up enough to accomplish what they have been sent to do. Many parents and teachers are scared of such independent spirits and want to medicate them because they are easier to handle that way.

These beautiful kind spirits are very hard to keep in the old rules of schools and families. They are self directed and don’t always get why adults want them to do things. They often believe that they are the boss.

Because they were exposed to technology in the womb, they are often very tech-savvy.  Show them an iPad or cell phone and within minutes, they know how to make it work to play games or look at cartoons.

A Few Characteristics of Indigo Children (Noted by Jan Tober and Lee Carol, Authors of “What is an Indigo Child.”)

 *  They have difficulty with absolute authority (authority without explanation or choice).

*  They simply will not do certain things; for example, waiting in line is difficult for them.

*  They get frustrated with systems that are ritually oriented and don’t require creative thought.

*  They often see better ways of doing things, both at home and in school, which makes them seem like “system busters” (nonconforming to any system).

* They seem antisocial unless they are with their own kind. If there are no others of like consciousness around them, they often turn inward; feeling like no other human understands them. School is often extremely difficult for them socially.

How do I tell if my child is an Indigo Child?

You will know. I can usually tell when a child is an indigo child because their eyes will look at you as if they can see into your soul. They are the ones who will help all of humanity to move in a better direction. A leader who will lead in their own way. Our job is to keep these Indigo Children safe and recognize what they have to teach us. They are born to lead, so let’s guide and accompany them on their journey, but let them lead the way. I am sure you probably have a child or two who come to mind when I talk about an Indigo Child.

So, now that you know what an Indigo Child is, if you didn’t already, how should you act when dealing with one?

Trust Your Intuition

There are many other books out there that will give you insight into the personality of an Indigo Child. However, your most important source of inspiration on dealing with your child is your heart and intuition. No one knows and loves your child as you do. Discuss and plan with the child systems to make life easier for both of you.

If your child has lost self esteem by trying to fit into a “regular world” please go to for a free ebook which will help them recognize their inner strength. You will be so glad you did.

Thanks for joining our community of caring parents, family members, coaches, teachers and mentors who want to help raise a generation of responsible adults who respect others.

Looking For a Unique Proposal Idea? Try a Gift Basket!

The gift that keeps on giving

Looking For A Unique Proposal Idea? Try A Gift Basket

When you’ve finally found the person that you want to spend the rest of your life and start a family with, you can’t wait to ask for their hand in marriage. However, engagement proposals on bended knee have been done before. If you’re looking for a unique way to ask your intended if they’ll marry you, you may want to consider a personalized gift bag or gift basket. Although you do not have to break the bank for this unique themed proposal, you do want to make it personal and intimate for your beloved. Below are a few ideas to help get you started towards the big day.

A Touch Of Hollywood Glamour

From celebrities like Kim Kardashian to events like the Golden Globe Awards, gift bags and baskets have become known as an elegant and sophisticated token of appreciation and extravagance. If your sweetheart is a fan of Hollywood glam, try compiling a gift bag with some of her most notable celebrity items, such signature perfume by her favorite Hollywood icon, a bottle of designer sparkling water or juice, high end organic snacks, and your engagement ring nestled at the bottom of the bag.

Walk Down Memory Lane

Marriage is one of the happiest times in a couple’s life, and you want to make the proposal a memorable occasion. In order to mark your journey together, place your focus on items that will showcase the places and events that led up to the proposal. You can put together a gift basket using movie ticket stubs, theater flyers and stuffed animals.

Your proposal basket can also include gifts, notes and pictures. If you’ve taken trips together, include brochures and paraphernalia collected on your adventures, hiding the ring underneath the layers of items. When you’re done taking a walk down memory lane, she’ll find the ring as she unfolds the final piece of the puzzle. What an amazing memory to add to your new life together.

Commit To The Future

Many of today’s couples are deciding to tone down the nuptial arrangements and use the money toward a home and family. Also, couples often “blend” families when getting married. If you’ve talked about what you would like to do with your future, personalize your proposal gift basket with for sale signs, home listings, new construction sites, specific home features and pictures of cats, dogs and your children. You can also have a small box wrapped that says “Home Sweet Home.” When the package is opened, your intended will see the ring and how it’s a symbol of your commitment to your future together as a couple.

Honeymoon Celebration

The honeymoon is an important part of any wedding celebration. Since the hard work of putting the wedding together is behind you, you’re now free to relax and enjoy your time together as a couple. If you’ve discussed places that you’ve always dreamed of going on a honeymoon, put together a proposal basket that makes your honeymoon trip into a reality.

Consider starting your special evening with a menu designed around the location you would like to visit. The gift basket can also include brochures, travel pamphlets and attractions that you both would like to visit. After your intended accepts the proposal, you have the materials that you need to put together and plan your honeymoon. Artifacts and miniature sculptures from the region are a great way to hide and display the engagement ring.

Love and Romance

In addition to Valentine’s Day, a marriage proposal is one of the most romantic events in a couple’s life. You can take this theme to the ultimate of romantic levels by creating the right scenario. Using your fireplace as the backdrop, a well laid out picnic could be the perfect way to wow your sweetheart with your proposal basket including picnic fare, chocolates, massage oils and monogrammed bathrobes. You can also have a cookie bouquet inscribed to ask your intended for their hand in marriage. In the middle of this delicious edible setting, the engagement ring can be displayed discreetly.

From helicopter rides and sunsets to sky writing and billboards, marriage proposals have become a creative outlet for asking your loved one to spend your life together. Personalized proposal gift baskets and bags are a great way for you to stand out from the traditional methods and make your dreams come alive.

Nadine Swayne is a freelance writer and enjoys making gift baskets for special occasions for friends and family. In her opinion, a wedding proposal, with a ring found jewelry district in Los Angeles, CA, is just such an occasion that would be perfect for a personalized gift basket.

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