Aunties and Uncles, Teachers and Coaches, Youth Leaders and extended families are so important to raising resilient, confident kids into adults.
Parents spend an average of seventeen hours a week in the company of their kids, but less than two hours a week devoted to interacting with them. Interacting means face to face or shoulder to shoulder time talking, playing or helping with homework. It does not mean texting or phone calls, which is connecting but not building real relationships.
There are more good people in the world and they are full of love and reflected in everything they do. On the other hand, there are also bad people in the world filled with hatred. If our world was full of evil people, there would be far more tragedies similar to the one that took place at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Connecticut.
Are you curious about the difference between discipline and punishment? Would you like to learn the truth about how to discipline without damage to the spirit of the child or employee? This interesting blog post will provide you with a unique perspective on why discipline is a positive way to help others gain competency and become competent adults.
Picture your child on the playground. Is she with friends or standing alone? This article on shy and withdrawn children will help you discover ways to build confidence and courage that will last a lifetime. Many unique tips and techniques that will enhance friendships.
Everybody needs a little cash right now. Here are some ideas to help you earn an extra $200 this weekend. Take a look and see what you could do to add to your regular income.
There are at least two myths about “quality time” and learning these myths will help parents relax a bit and enjoy time with the family.
Our family used to have Sunday Night Panic and we all hated it. Now we have quality time working together and totally being present. I was a maniac every Sunday night trying to get ready for the new week. Took my kids to teach me how to include quality time with chores, errands and mundane life stuff.
How do you determine if you or your child is being bullied? Perhaps it was just a joke taken too far?
Bullying can best be defined as an imbalance of power. Whenever there is an imbalance of power or strength that is either real or perceived there is a potential for the greater power to intentionally threaten or harm the weaker one. This power struggles usually takes place over a sustained period of time and has the potential to escalate into violence.
Tough Boys and Mean Girls
It is very easy to cyber-bully today. Think hard before you push send on a text message. You or your child could be held liable for bullying. See http://www.cyberbullyinghelp.com for a free resource guide.
There have always been tough boys and mean girls all over the world who have enjoyed teasing, taunting and making life miserable for other kids. But now, with more electronic media readily available through the use of cell phones and the Internet, bullying has become more dangerous, more devious and often more difficult to detect.
We used to think bullying could begin at any age but, typically it begins to escalate around the third grade, peaking by about eighth grade and tapering off in high school. We are now finding bullying often starts earlier and lasts much longer. The combination of cyberspace and bullies can be a dangerous combination. The escalation of cyber-bullying can range from mild teasing to death threats.
National Statistics
There are no precise national statistics proving how often or how severe bullying instances are. However, experts agree that 15 to 20 percent of children become the victim of bullies at some point during their school years. These same experts strongly agree that incidents are on the rise.
It is difficult to pinpoint the exact number of both physical, sexual and electronic bullying cases that happen every day. For any number of reasons including embarrassment and fear of reprisal children often do not report when they are being bullied. Also, it is quite normal for incidents to occur over a long period of time, with escalating severity.
Case Study of Bullying
For example: on Wednesday Tom pushes Craig in the lunchroom and calls him a racist name. Craig, who is feeling emotionally strong with his friends sitting at the table, handles it by replying “When you say something so stupid, it just reinforces everyone’s image of you as a bigot.”
Craig’s friends laugh as Tom slams his water bottle on the table and walks off. Problem solved, not quite.
Friday as the boys are in the locker room preparing for soccer practice, Tom notices Craig is now alone. Without Craig’s friends around Tom feel more powerful leading Tom to accidentally push Craig into a locker. Tom then takes Craig’s soccer shorts and puts them in the toilet.
Tom adds some fuel to the fire by testing the other players on the team telling them Craig has wet his pants and requests they pass the message on to everyone they know.
When Craig arrives for practise everyone is laughing at him, and making comments. Craig now feels more vulnerable because he is the smallest boy on the team. So, this teasing, taunting and belittling has a profound effect on him today.
When Craig finally gets up enough courage to tell someone what is happening to him the coach he speaks to brushes off Craig’s concerns with a comment about boys being boys.
Craig has been bullied twice in this scenario. Were these incidents all part of the jockeying for position in a social group?
Taunting, Teasing, Jeering, Threatening, Shoving-All bullying tactics
Bullying is a catch-all phase which encompasses taunting, teasing, jeering, threatening, kicking, shoving, and physically assaulting others.
Indirect bullying, or more commonly ‘bystander bullying” is when one child or a group of children intentionally ignore a bullying incident, exclude, or shun another child or group of children without ever having a physical altercation.
This type of bullying often has the same devastating effect as a physical assault.
As you can see, bullying is a problem affecting families and individuals all over the world.
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Words can hurt or heal. Choose the words you say so your voice will be one of encouragement and praise, rather than demeaning and negative. Change the way you talk to others, and change their lives and yours.
New research shows that all likeable children behave in certain ways. These skills are not in-born but can be taught by parents, teachers and other caring adults. There is a language of likeability that some children cannot pick up by osmosis, but must learn. It has been called“shorthand” to making friends.
3 Simple Ways to Keep Young Children Safe
As a parent, keeping your children safe is your chief priority. And there’s plenty of advice out there touting certain strategies for doing so. But it doesn’t have to be complex or difficult.
To improve the safety of your young child, we’ll keep things simple. Here are three tips for child safety success:
1) Avoid leaving children unattended
Leaving a child unattended guarantees you won’t be available to correct dangerous behavior or help in the event of an accident. And although you shouldn’t leave small children unattended unless they are in the confines of a safe bedroom or they are sleeping, there are special circumstances in which you always want to pay extra special attention.
How will you go about making your home a safer place? The best way to keep your kids safe at home is to childproof it. Childproofing is simply taking precautionary measures to ensure your kids don’t have access to things that can threaten their health or safety.
For the best results, continually scan the home environment to identity potential safety threats for your young children, and take action to correct those issues.
3) Monitor your home for burglary, fire and carbon monoxide
Getting a home security system doesn’t replace taking precautions and exercising good judgment. But it can help add to the overall home safety experience by putting you the push of a button away from professional assistance for a variety of home emergencies. With a home security system, you get fast emergency response to:
When you select home security systems, you’re not just protecting your children. You’re getting protection for your home and peace of mind, too. And when you have a safe home and peace of mind, you can enjoy spending time with the ones you love instead of worrying about what you would ever do if you experienced an emergency.
Keeping your kids safe isn’t necessarily easy. But it’s a lot less difficult if you consistently monitor your children, exercise safety precautions within the home and get protection from an external home security company. Take these three simple steps today and enjoy life as a parent more than ever have before.