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Your Teen and DUI: Consequences For the Entire Family

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Your Teen and DUI: Consequences For the Entire Family

Any situation involving a DUI can have serious repercussions for accused individual. However, this is oftentimes even worse for teenager, as it can also negatively affect not only their future, but their family as well. Though everyone involved would likely wish to put this one “stupid decision” firmly behind them, drunk driving incidents can have an emotional ripple effect on the entire family.

Coping with the aftermath of your teen’s drunk driving incident is difficult enough without taking into consideration the further impact it may have on your family. Your relationship with your spouse can suffer, as can social relationships for both you and your other children. Additionally, there are financial setbacks and future plans that could possibly be severely compromised.

1) Your other children are teased at school.

Whether you live in a large city or a small town, every community has a grapevine. Even if your teen’s DUI wasn’t published in the paper, chances are, word will get around. This could result in your other children being teased by their friends, or their parents even forbidding them to come to your home. Talk to your children about how to handle teasing, and speak to other parents to let them know while you love your teenager, you do not condone their choices and would never let their child come to harm in your home.

2) The legal costs are crippling to your family’s finances.

According to Hofland & Tomsheck, Las Vegas criminal defense attorneys, criminal conviction often carries with it a range of potential consequences that can negatively impact your life forever. This includes exspensive fines can range from $500 to over $2000. From hiring a DUI attorney to court costs and fines, coping with the price can bring a huge amount of debt to a family. This may mean that birthdays and holidays suffer, as well as any planned vacations going out the window. Sit down with your family and be honest about the situation so everyone knows what to expect. While it is disappointing, sticking together during this time is key.

3) Your friends and family think you’re a bad parent.

Parents of teens caught drunk driving can often experience the cold shoulder from other parents, members of their community and even their own family. Coping with feeling “cut off” from your support system can be very depressing for everyone involved. Try to be forthcoming with your friends and family about what has happened, and that your family is trying to cope with a very serious setback. More than likely, there will be people in your circle who have dealt with similar situations who can help.

4) You and your spouse can’t stop arguing.

Stress is an enormous cause of arguments in any relationship, but the stress of a child in trouble can be doubly so. If your teenager is in trouble, it will be natural for you to be angry, and that can sometimes move into picking fights with your spouse or loved one. Try to understand the cause of your anger, and if need be, speak to a professional to counsel you and your family with your issues.

5) Your insurance is through the roof.

Insurance in the United States is expensive enough for most families without having to add a DUI charge to the mix. If your teenager is convicted with an offense or there is damage to your car or injuries, you are likely to see a big jump in your insurance costs. Shop around for your insurance provider and be forthcoming about the cause. Additionally, your teenager should also be asked to contribute towards the insurance with a part-time job.

Communication is important when dealing with the aftermath of a drunk driving charge. However, good communication is key. Take a policy of complete honesty to deal with friends and family, making sure to underline that while you do not agree with what your child did, you are trying to work through it as a family. Sticking together is the most important thing you can do.

Journalist Nicole Bailey-Covin has covered many unfortunate cases where young people have made and sometimes fatal choices in deciding to drink and drive. She encourage parents to talk to their teens and when needed don’t be afraid to monitor their children’s communications and whereabouts.  It is better to be protective and safe, than to look back with regrets.

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Do You Have An Indigo Child? (EXPERT)

 

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Judy Helm Wright, aka “Auntie Artichoke” is a parent educator and life coach who has worked with families like yours all over the world. Give her a call at 406-549-9813 to schedule a speaking engagement.

 

Indigo Children- Born to Lead, Hard to Manage, Do you have one at your house?

 Indigo children are children that are not content to color in the lines or glue macaroni on paper. They are very bright but also very active and curious, which can make them hard to keep up with. It often seems like Indigo children are born knowing who and what they are immediately.

What they really need are parents to guide them a little and keep them safe until they are grown up enough to accomplish what they have been sent to do. Many parents and teachers are scared of such independent spirits and want to medicate them because they are easier to handle that way.

These beautiful kind spirits are very hard to keep in the old rules of schools and families. They are self directed and don’t always get why adults want them to do things. They often believe that they are the boss.

Because they were exposed to technology in the womb, they are often very tech-savvy.  Show them an iPad or cell phone and within minutes, they know how to make it work to play games or look at cartoons.

A Few Characteristics of Indigo Children (Noted by Jan Tober and Lee Carol, Authors of “What is an Indigo Child.”)

 *  They have difficulty with absolute authority (authority without explanation or choice).

*  They simply will not do certain things; for example, waiting in line is difficult for them.

*  They get frustrated with systems that are ritually oriented and don’t require creative thought.

*  They often see better ways of doing things, both at home and in school, which makes them seem like “system busters” (nonconforming to any system).

* They seem antisocial unless they are with their own kind. If there are no others of like consciousness around them, they often turn inward; feeling like no other human understands them. School is often extremely difficult for them socially.

How do I tell if my child is an Indigo Child?

You will know. I can usually tell when a child is an indigo child because their eyes will look at you as if they can see into your soul. They are the ones who will help all of humanity to move in a better direction. A leader who will lead in their own way. Our job is to keep these Indigo Children safe and recognize what they have to teach us. They are born to lead, so let’s guide and accompany them on their journey, but let them lead the way. I am sure you probably have a child or two who come to mind when I talk about an Indigo Child.

So, now that you know what an Indigo Child is, if you didn’t already, how should you act when dealing with one?

Trust Your Intuition

There are many other books out there that will give you insight into the personality of an Indigo Child. However, your most important source of inspiration on dealing with your child is your heart and intuition. No one knows and loves your child as you do. Discuss and plan with the child systems to make life easier for both of you.

If your child has lost self esteem by trying to fit into a “regular world” please go to http://www.UseEncouragingWords.com for a free ebook which will help them recognize their inner strength. You will be so glad you did.

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Looking For a Unique Proposal Idea? Try a Gift Basket!

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Looking For A Unique Proposal Idea? Try A Gift Basket

When you’ve finally found the person that you want to spend the rest of your life and start a family with, you can’t wait to ask for their hand in marriage. However, engagement proposals on bended knee have been done before. If you’re looking for a unique way to ask your intended if they’ll marry you, you may want to consider a personalized gift bag or gift basket. Although you do not have to break the bank for this unique themed proposal, you do want to make it personal and intimate for your beloved. Below are a few ideas to help get you started towards the big day.

A Touch Of Hollywood Glamour

From celebrities like Kim Kardashian to events like the Golden Globe Awards, gift bags and baskets have become known as an elegant and sophisticated token of appreciation and extravagance. If your sweetheart is a fan of Hollywood glam, try compiling a gift bag with some of her most notable celebrity items, such signature perfume by her favorite Hollywood icon, a bottle of designer sparkling water or juice, high end organic snacks, and your engagement ring nestled at the bottom of the bag.

Walk Down Memory Lane

Marriage is one of the happiest times in a couple’s life, and you want to make the proposal a memorable occasion. In order to mark your journey together, place your focus on items that will showcase the places and events that led up to the proposal. You can put together a gift basket using movie ticket stubs, theater flyers and stuffed animals.

Your proposal basket can also include gifts, notes and pictures. If you’ve taken trips together, include brochures and paraphernalia collected on your adventures, hiding the ring underneath the layers of items. When you’re done taking a walk down memory lane, she’ll find the ring as she unfolds the final piece of the puzzle. What an amazing memory to add to your new life together.

Commit To The Future

Many of today’s couples are deciding to tone down the nuptial arrangements and use the money toward a home and family. Also, couples often “blend” families when getting married. If you’ve talked about what you would like to do with your future, personalize your proposal gift basket with for sale signs, home listings, new construction sites, specific home features and pictures of cats, dogs and your children. You can also have a small box wrapped that says “Home Sweet Home.” When the package is opened, your intended will see the ring and how it’s a symbol of your commitment to your future together as a couple.

Honeymoon Celebration

The honeymoon is an important part of any wedding celebration. Since the hard work of putting the wedding together is behind you, you’re now free to relax and enjoy your time together as a couple. If you’ve discussed places that you’ve always dreamed of going on a honeymoon, put together a proposal basket that makes your honeymoon trip into a reality.

Consider starting your special evening with a menu designed around the location you would like to visit. The gift basket can also include brochures, travel pamphlets and attractions that you both would like to visit. After your intended accepts the proposal, you have the materials that you need to put together and plan your honeymoon. Artifacts and miniature sculptures from the region are a great way to hide and display the engagement ring.

Love and Romance

In addition to Valentine’s Day, a marriage proposal is one of the most romantic events in a couple’s life. You can take this theme to the ultimate of romantic levels by creating the right scenario. Using your fireplace as the backdrop, a well laid out picnic could be the perfect way to wow your sweetheart with your proposal basket including picnic fare, chocolates, massage oils and monogrammed bathrobes. You can also have a cookie bouquet inscribed to ask your intended for their hand in marriage. In the middle of this delicious edible setting, the engagement ring can be displayed discreetly.

From helicopter rides and sunsets to sky writing and billboards, marriage proposals have become a creative outlet for asking your loved one to spend your life together. Personalized proposal gift baskets and bags are a great way for you to stand out from the traditional methods and make your dreams come alive.

Nadine Swayne is a freelance writer and enjoys making gift baskets for special occasions for friends and family. In her opinion, a wedding proposal, with a ring found jewelry district in Los Angeles, CA, is just such an occasion that would be perfect for a personalized gift basket.

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Supporting Your Teen’s Self-Expression

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If you’re the parent of a teen or preteen, you likely already know about the many phases that kids go through on their journey toward discovering their personal sense of style. One minute your little princess is prancing around in a tiara, and the next, she’s experimenting with black eyeliner and wanting a tattoo. Experimenting these rapidly shifting phases can be scary as a parent, and you want to do your best to support your child’s self-expression without allowing him or her to make a regrettable change.

Acceptable Forms of Self-Expression

Different parents have different ideas about what is acceptable self-expression. If you’re a tattooed rocker yourself, you may be more comfortable with the idea of your young one wanting some body art than a straight-laced conservative type. However, even most parents who are supportive of tattoos believe that a young teenager isn’t ready to make such a permanent decision.

There will be many more phases of exploration still to come, and no good parent would allow their children to do things they might later regret. Some parents might be against any form of self-expression that makes their kids look different from the norm, but if you’re okay with an edgier look and just don’t want your child making any permanent adjustments, you might want to consider allowing things like semi-permanent purple hair color and temporary tattoos.

All The Fun, None of The Commitment

Temporary tattoos have come a long way since the tiny, faded pictures that used to come as prizes in cereal and snack boxes. Case in point, the website of Tattoo You “is re-inventing the temporary tattoo.” Now, you can find removables in every color and design imaginable, many of which are very intricate and realistic looking.

Various online stores offer a wide selection, allowing your child to choose designs that he or she feels match their desired look. Creating unique and stylish offerings, even some famous designers have jumped on the bandwagon.

Make a Convincing Case For Removable Ink

If your child’s desire for a permanent ink is strong, he or she may be less than enthused about going the temporary route. You can make a convincing argument by explaining that while tattoos can be a great method to make a personal statement, most people are happier with them when they wait until later in life. Also, explain the difficult, painful and extremely expensive process of getting an unwanted tattoo removed versus the easy and pain-free process of washing off a temporary version, which can be done with rubbing alcohol, soap and water.

If their complain is their desired design isn’t available, let them know they have some options to customize the perfect removable image. Not only will playing with temporary tattoos encourage your child’s creativity and self-expression, but it will allow him or her to have some time to think about whether a certain design would make a good real tattoo in the future.

If you play your cards right, your child will listen to your points and decide to be happy with a temporary tattoo. If not, you might have to deal with some anger at first, but in the long run, they will likely thank you for not allowing such a permanent decision to narrow down options for style in the future. Or if you can get them to wait a minute, the next day, as teens do, they may be on to something different.

Teresa Stewart, a free-lance writer with an artistic edge, appreciates a meaningful tattoo but subscribes to the theme that variety is the spice of life. What’s great for today might be not so great tomorrow. She writes for parents who feel their child’s still maturing mind may also want a change in the future.

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Eight Landscaping Ideas The Whole Family Can Enjoy

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Sprucing up the landscaping of your family home will make your entire property more aesthetically pleasing and welcoming to your guest, but also a great way to spend time with the family and encourage bonding time. Fortunately, there are multiple beautiful and relatively easy things that you can do to dramatically improve the appearance of your lawn while teaching and encouraging your kids to get active. In fact, simply putting a few of these techniques in place can convert an average property into the most beautiful one on the block and something to brag about to your friends about how the whole family was involved.

1. Build a Small Rock Garden

If you have an old flower bed or garden area that you would like to fill with something different, you can build a small rock garden to convert that space into something unusual and visually appealing. As an added bonus, this is one less area on your property that will need to be watered and mowed. This creates a great way to teach your kids about building, but in a simplistic way.

2. Shape Your Hedges

Topiary is a very interesting horticultural practice that can be used to set your yard apart from the rest of the neighborhood. In fact, the amount of choices you have when it comes to shaping your hedges is only limited by your own imagination, and your families. Encourage your children to give their input. Therefore, you can select basic shapes or get a professional to bring something much more complicated to life.

3. Hire Professionals 

Some things are difficult to handle on your own when it comes to pests, or the safety of your children. Pests can cause a lot of damage to your lawn, and many of them also target shrubs and trees. With this in mind, it is a good idea to utilize the services of a lawn care technician to take care of pests and perform a wide variety of other important tasks such as aeration. Seen online at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=egVlbi86kug one can view the importance of being sure their license is up-to-date, and that they are properly trained in pest control when handling your landscaping needs.

4. Plant Trees and Shrubs

Having trees and shrubs on your property can give it a more lively appearance, and they can also serve multiple other purposes. For example, you could use a hedge line in place of a fence, and trees offer shade to make it more tolerable to entertain in your yard during the summer. Consider your families opinion when considering where to plant your trees and shrubs.

5. Plant Flowers

There is perhaps nothing more eye-catching than having a carefully selected floral selection planted in key areas throughout your yard. Keep in mind that utilizing a specific color scheme will help create cohesion, and it will also provide your property with a more dynamic appearance. Encourage your kids to help with the digging and take this opportunity to teach them about how to care for such plants.

6. Put Down a New Layer of Mulch

Most homeowners choose mulch that is reddish or brown, and this tends to blend in with the rest of the property. However, if you would rather have the mulch stand out, you can switch to the black option instead. This can provide visual contrast, and it will help make your entire lawn look more exciting. Letting your little ones help spread the mulch out is a great way to spend time together.

7. Mow a Design into Your Lawn

Simply mowing your lawn can give it a healthy appearance, but you can take this one step further by purposefully mowing your grass a specific way in order to create a pattern. There are several different designs that you can choose from, including the patterns that are mowed into professional baseball fields. With the family you can look at designs online, and how it can be mowed to create it.

8. Pay Attention to Your Driveway Entrance

If you have grass on either side of your driveway, you should consider framing this area with brightly colored plants and flowers, and it can also be very aesthetically pleasing to add a driveway gate. Encourage your children to participate it what should be planted.

As you can see, it is not complicated to freshen up the exterior appearance of your home while encouraging family time and teaching your kids the basics about landscaping. The majority of these landscaping ideas can be performed by homeowners and their family, but you can also easily turn to a professional lawn care company if you do not have the proper tools, skills or time to take care of things on your own.

Lisa Coleman is a blogger and homeowner from Atlanta GA whose interests include beautiful landscape and design to enhance a home’s natural beauty. Her interests also include gardening and enjoying the outdoors with her 4 children.

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Top 4 “Must Haves” For The New Mom

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Top 4 “Must Haves” for the New Mom

The amount of equipment needed for a new infant can seem overwhelming to a new mom. While the advice from family, friends and co-workers can leave your head reeling, you’ll find the following compiled list to house the top four items every new mom must have.

Nursing Pillows

A nursing pillow is an essential piece of equipment for feeding your new bundle of joy. The pillow is designed to provide better positioning, so your child can get the most out of their feedings. Accessories, such as Mombo nursing pillows can also provide comfort to both mother and child when it’s time to breast-feed. However, even though the name denotes “nursing”, it is not just for breastfeeding moms. It is extremely helpful to mothers who are using bottles, as well.

As your child grows and develops, the nursing pillow can also provide support and better coordination by engaging them in sitting up. Pregnant moms also swear by the nursing pillow as a way to alleviate back pain and discomfort.

Smartphone Applications

Today’s technological advances have made it easier to take care of an infant. If you’re looking to keep track of your infant’s diaper changing and bowel movements, you’ll find baby tracking diaper apps an easy way to monitor the time, consistency and changes.

You can even download the information for your next physician appointment. If you have bothersome noises interfering with your infants sleep schedule, you can download various white noise sounds such as crickets chirping, beach waves and other nature sounds. Calendars, alarms and other smartphone applications make it easy to track physician appointments, medicine schedules and when its time for feedings.

Forums and Support Groups

Whether you need help with breast-feeding or you’re wondering if your child’s cough should be worrisome, you’ll find mom forums and support groups to be beneficial for new moms. The forums can also offer advice and helpful tips on your child’s growth and development, what to feed your infant and questions about potty training.

The support groups can also be a great place for moms to arrange play dates with your children or to start up a mommy and baby exercise programs. Having the support of other moms who have experience under their belt can be a life saver for the new mom.

Baby Monitors

Baby monitors have come a long way from capturing the sounds and voice of an infant. New moms will find the hottest trends in infant monitors to come equipped with the tools to check their temperatures, sleep patterns, breathing and positioning.

The video capabilities of the monitors also put a stop to the endless trips into the infant’s room to check on them. They also have smartphone capabilities that allow a mom to check on their tiny tots when traveling on business or an evening on the town via cellphone application.The new wave of monitoring devices is aimed at helping parents get a good night’s rest along with their infant. It’s also provided new moms with early detection capabilities that can alert them to any serious problems.

Preparing for an infant can be an exciting time in a new mom’s life. However, ensuring that you have the essentials to make your life easier can seem daunting. In addition to providing comfort for your child, you’ll find the above four helpful tips empowering in your child raising experience.

Jamica Bell is a freelance writer and former president of a national stay-at-home mom support group. As a proud mother to 7 active children, she is well acquainted with the “must haves’ to make life easier for new moms.

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Emotional Phases of a Teen After an Accident

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Emotional Phases of a Teen After an Accident

This time of year spells the end of the school year for most of our children. Thoughts and anticipation of some respite from the rigors of academia are usually paramount to the student. For some, graduation from high school marks an important milestone, the beginning of their adulthood, and sometimes their independence from home.

In the excitement and celebratory atmosphere, many teens find themselves hurt in accidents, primarily because teenagers underestimate crash risks in hazardous situations and overestimate their driving abilities. The chances of being involved in an accident also goes up when teens have other peers as passengers in their cars. And of course, events such as graduation practice, commencement ceremonies and end-of-school parties give them the opportunities to travel with each other.

It can be very difficult for anyone to deal with the emotional trauma that is associated with being involved in an accident, that is more than a mere fender bender. But for the young driver, this problem is often exacerbated by their youth. After all, most children have a very tenuous grasp on exactly how life and death works, and it is common for them to feel somewhat invincible. Due to this, a serious injury caused by an accident can be such a traumatic event that a child could have a hard time returning to a state of normalcy. If the accident happened to involve getting tangled with a behemoth semi-truck, the experience could be even more traumatic for the young and frightened driver. Just the size of a big rig can be daunting against the size of whatever the teenager was driving.

1. Guilt – guilt is an extremely common emotion that most people feel after an accident. If the driver was the at-fault driver and others were injured, guilt can become severe and overwhelming. Help your teen’s healing process by encouraging him to admit his responsibility and atone for it. The worst thing you can do as a parent is to minimize the situation and deny his wrongdoing.

2. Fear – Many people experience fear at the scene of an accident and after. For a young and inexperienced driver, this fear can be magnified. The teen might not know the steps to take right after an accident. He might be afraid that his driving rights will be taken away. In his imagination, the teen might think that his punishment will be severe with the law. Prepare your teen for this by teaching him the steps to take immediately after an accident. Depending on his age, you might have to accompany him if he has a court date.

3. Anger – Anger is another emotion that can be very strong after an accident. Maybe there is anger from your teen because his car, which is the symbol of his independence, has been totaled. There’s the monetary loss he can be angry about too. If he was seriously injured, extreme anger can set in after he realizes that his life may not ever return to the way it was. The step to healing is to forgive the person who caused him harm. This might require extensive therapy until your child can reach that stage.

4. Anxiety  Sometimes, the emotions that a person feels after a trauma can be delayed. Your teen may become riddled with anxiety, perhaps become nervous about being in a car again, let alone get behind the wheel of one. Anxiety about dealing with injuries and recovery can become severe, especially if he will have to make any adaptations to his every day life. Therapy can be a big help in giving him coping mechanisms. Sometimes, medication can be very effective.

5. Action – After your teenager has gone through the typical emotions listed above and is further on his way to healing from the accident trauma, encourage him to take action. Assist him in finding a personal injury lawyer who can get him compensation for his traumatic experience. If the accident involved a truck, he will need an experienced lawyer because “Trucking companies have powerful insurance companies on their sides, and they may be hesitant to pay the money you deserve,” according to Cofman Townsley. Also make your child aware that the insurance company is not his friend. They will want to settle the case quickly, which is not always in your child’s best interests.

Being there to support your child’s emotional needs after an accident will help them get back to their normal routine more quickly. Keep in mind that part of his lawsuit can be centered around recovering his medical and mental health expenses. You will also be teaching him a valuable lesson – how to be proactive in times of distress.

Writer Debbie Nguyen had to instill calmness after her son’s first accident because he was so frightened that he would be incarcerated. His inexperience magnified his fear.

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High School Athletes And Dehydration: Deadly Combo

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High school sports mean everything to those who participate in them. Whether it’s a young girl who just wants to spend time with her friends on the softball diamond or young boys looking to lay the foundation for a potential professional football career, these little pieces of high school mean the world to some young people.

Potential colleges and universities also look at a young person’s resume to see which extracurricular activities he has been involved in. College admission is no longer solely based on GPA, but rather how well-rounded a student is. So involvement in community service or athletics is important to include in the application.

The High School Athlete

High school athletes can literally become heroes in “Small Town USA,” and they know it. This often causes some of them to push themselves too hard, and if a teen is pushed far enough by an overzealous coach, they can quickly succumb to dehydration or other health-related problems.

It’s a well-known fact that most teenagers are not great at time management. It should be pointed out that training for young athletes often mandates a large time commitment. Depending on their sport, some teens must be at practice for as much as 6 days out of the week during the school year. That combined with the academic course load can be overwhelming for some students.

Practices during the summer months are usually held when the sun is at its hottest. The treeless playing fields or track surfaces can also radiate heat onto the athlete. Of course, teenagers also don’t like to allot precious time to sleeping or good nutrition. The likelihood of fatigue and getting run down is very high for teens because they don’t spend enough time on rest or recovery.

Potential Dangers Faced By Athletes

Just looking at the recent unpredictable weather in the nation is enough to understand how a teen can get injured in his sport. Even though many areas have experienced flooding, we have wide areas that are suffering from drought, making them vulnerable to fires. And with global warming, our summers are hotter. In South Carolina, for instance, there is a daily average high of 90 degrees. When this is added to a relative humidity ranging from 50 to 90, it’s a recipe for disaster for the student athlete.

This is why it’s so important for parents, especially those with high school athletes, to keep up with their teen’s sports activities. Dropping in on after-school training, for instance, can give a parent an idea of whether the coach is asking too much on a day of extreme heat. Additionally, a parent can take notice if their child starts showcasing strange behaviors that could relate to heat stroke or dehydration. Finally, a parent should never brush off their teen’s complaints of “weakness.” Their coach could legitimately be going over the line, when winning is the most important thing on his agenda.

The Aftermath Of Injury

It’s a sad fact, but teenagers have actually died from their coaches pushing them too hard when the heat outside should have had them, and their teammates, sidelined. If a parent’s teen becomes ill because of exhaustion, dehydration, or heat stroke, it’s imperative that they let the school know what has occurred. Speaking with the coach may also prevent any other students from falling victim to this situation.

Additionally, Hofland & Tomsheck Attorneys say a parent may be able to sue the school and coach for negligence. A coach who pushes a child too far can literally cause injuries that can prevent them from ever playing again, and in worst case scenarios, even end their life. Coaches are supposed to be trained professionals, so when they push teens further than they should be pushed, it can definitely constitute a form of negligence.

Every parent wants their child to be happy, and if playing a sport where everyone admires high school athletes is what it takes to make them happy, all the better. It’s important, though, for parents to strive to protect their teenager while they’re on the field. Passing out from exhaustion, dehydration, or sunstroke isn’t going to make them a better athlete. In the end, it could cost them much more than a high school sporting career.

Freelance writer Debbie Nguyen believes that youth sports should be fun, safe, and teach kids good sportsmanship. She is lucky her two teens’ coaches have always exemplified professionalism.

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Invisible Wounds…Coping With the Issue of Crash Anxiety

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When you think about car accidents in general, you think of physical injuries and physical damage to your car. In most cases, you do not think about the emotional trauma that an accident can cause, or the lasting anxiety that can occur. In fact, most people do not realize how often this occurs, especially in women.

Women often become afraid of their cars if the injuries they sustained were very serious. While this does happen in men, women react this way to an accident more often because they feel that their driving skills have become diminished.When a car accident occurs, it can really impact your self-confidence about getting behind the wheel again. Anxiety and fear can also become an issue, and many people experience a complete fear of even getting into a car again. Thankfully, this can be addressed and corrected.

Overcoming Post Accident Anxiety

• Drivers Refresher Course. Sometimes this fear and anxiety can be overcome by taking a drivers refresher course. The person who is experiencing the anxiety “learns” first-hand that they are still a skilled driver and able to operate the vehicle.

• Passenger Skills. Sometimes this fear is able to be conquered by remaining a passenger for a while and feeling comfortable in the front seat of the car once more. In bad anxiety cases, the person who is affected does not even want to get into a car at all. Sometimes starting slowly as a passenger will help overcome the fear.

• Small Trips. It may take some time, but the fearful driver can begin making small errands in the car, preferably with another adult passenger. Quick trips to the grocery store will eventually become long trips.

• Therapy. Some people are so fearful of their car after an accident that they must seek professional therapy to help them overcome their problems. Once therapy has begun to show progress, they will be able to complete the steps listed above and return to driving.

Post-accident anxiety is something that is very real and must be taken seriously. If you or a loved on have been involved in a car accident and are experiencing this type of fear, it is important to seek help. It is also very important for you to discuss this fact with your car accident attorney. On this video from Long Island car accident lawyer, Gacovino Lake, you can find some insight in to the type of assistance a car accident attorney can provide to make the situation less stressful.

Of particular interest is the fact that insurance companies will show up as quickly as possible to settle your claim. You may not be aware of your anxiety about driving at that time and would not receive the appropriate compensation to pay for therapy for your anxiety.

Your attorney can make sure that prior to the settlement for your accident , the insurance company pay for any and all treatments you need to overcome this issue. Any lasting impacts that this anxiety may cause you must also be considered when a settlement is offered. If continued treatment is necessary, you need to have the financial capabilities to cover these expenses.

The worst thing that you can do is ignore these feelings. You want to make sure that you take the proper steps or receive the right therapy to address this issue. Failing to take care of the problem could result in a lifetime of not being able to drive or panicking behind the wheel. Sadly, panicking behind the wheel could lead to another accident, making matters even worse.

Georgina Clatworthy is a former legal editor and still writes on many legal topics. She has always tried to provide advice and insight on the many issues often overlooked in legal matters especially in terms of the effects caused by injuries and accidents.

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Losing The Career They Dedicated Their Life To – When Your Spouse Comes Home From The Sea

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Losing The Career They Dedicated Their Life To – When Your Spouse Comes Home From The Sea

A lifelong career as a merchant marine can be a rewarding profession. Theyenjoy the freedom of working at sea, getting to see new areas of the world, meeting new people, and being paid well for their efforts. But, what happens when you or your loved one are no longer able to continue on this lucrative career path because of an accident that was perhaps beyond your control?

Coping With The Loss

As with any career, losing your position or job completely can be devastating on your psyche and your income. People often feel angry and sad; they blame themselves or others for the situation. As the partner of someone who has lost a career that he or she was passionate about, you can offer support in several ways:

1.    Be patient. Understand that your loved one is in distress and give them time to deal with that emotion. Any life-changing event, such as a job loss, is similar to experiencing a death in the family. You need time to process everything and come to terms with it on your own.

2.    Be empathetic. While your loved one deals with the pain of losing a job, especially if it was a result of an accident, try to put yourself in their shoes. Instead of being the voice of reason or logic, let your partner know you understand how they feel. Empathy will go a long way in helping your loved one recover from this loss both psychologically and physically (if they were injured, for example).

3.    Be supportive. Help in any way you can to ease the pain of the loss of your partner’s career. If they were the major breadwinner in the relationship, they’re most likely feeling stressed about no longer being able to provide financially. Let them know that you are there to help through this transition – even if it means cutting back on a few extraneous expenses until your partner embarks on their next career path.

Discuss Other Options

Even though your loved one may have dedicated their life to a career in the maritime industry, help them explore other career options – especially if they are no longer able to work as a result of a physical disability from an accident on the job. Once they recover physically, if your partner is still able to work, what are their other skills? What job have they always thought about if they didn’t have a maritime career? Explore options that include hobbies and interests. Perhaps one of them can become the next career.

Can You Get Financial Compensation?

In some cases, depending on the circumstance of the accident, if your loved one was the victim in a crash and suffered injuries that have forced them to give up their lifelong career, you may be entitled to financial compensation or workers’ compensation to help you through this difficult time. You can watch this video, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_mB6iCsBsdY, for more information and learn how to contact an experienced maritime attorney to review your case. An experienced lawyer will be able to determine whether or not you are eligible for financial compensation that may help you pay medical expenses and even cover lost wages while your loved one is out of work. Receiving financial assistance at this difficult, emotional time in your lives as a couple can certainly ease the burden of money-related stresses so you can focus on recovering physically and emotionally.

You Are In This Together

When a situation such as a job loss occurs, for whatever reason, let your partner know you are in this together. For the sake of your relationship, try not to place blame, and focus on recovering together. You are in it for better or worse. Know that you can make it through together and become stronger as a result.

Nadine Swayne understands the importance of uplifting a loved one after a traumatic accident that affects the family. By researching online, she found this valuable information and contact video to help others.

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