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Ask Auntie Artichoke - Expert on Parenting and Family Relationships

Adopt An Older Dog- Great Choice For Pet Parents

Deciding to share your home with a cutie dog is a step towards a wonderful experience. So, why don’t you take the next step which is adopting an older dog? There are many dogs waiting for you to invite them into your home. They will repay you with so much love and devotion.
With an older dog, non-stop curious energy and puppy faces are gone. They developed a sense of self, maturity and a sort of wisdom. Older dos are like a basketball glove, conditioned, relaxed and ready to play the later innings in this game of life. for more information about the life of a dog, please see http://www.deathofmypet.com

Help Your Child Make Friends (expert)

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The Left Out Child: The Importance of Friendship answers these and other questions:
What can parents do to guide the social development of their young children?
Why is it important to be included?
Is it harder to make friends now than it used to be?
How important is it to help your child be more likeable?
What do I do if the teacher or coach doesn’t like my child?
How do I comfort my child when they are picked last or not at all?
How do I help my child overcome shyness and build confidence?
Is there a gender difference in friendships?
What about bullies, should parents intervene?
Ages and stages of friendship
Social skills are simple, but not easy
Ten ways to help your child make friends
15 ways to help kids like themselves

Mean Girls & Tough Boys–Bullying At Any Age (EXPERT)

Tough boys and Mean girls have always been around. Bullying is a catch-all phrase for an imbalance of power or strength that is either real or perceived. There is a potential for the greater power to intentionally threaten or harm the weaker one. This power struggles usually takes place over a sustained period of time and has the potential to escalate into violence. Bullying can harm indivduals, families, schools and communties. For more information please see http://www.cyberbullyinghelp.com

Does My Son Have An Eating Disorder?

Does Your Son Have An Eating Disorder? Often people think of anorexia and a vision of a girl pops into our mind. However, there are many young men who also suffer from poor body image and develop eating disorders. This article contains tips to spot an eating disorder with your son and methods to overcome and prevent it. Get the facts on eating issues and disorders here. You will be glad you did. http://www.AskAuntieArtichoke.com

Devastating Injury: How To Combat The Whirlpool of Why Me?

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Devastating Injury: How To Combat The Whirlpool of Why Me?

If you’ve experienced an injury, you may find yourself sidetracked by pain and depression. Whether your injury is long-term or short, it’s common to be plagued by feelings of anxiety, despair, and the “why me” syndrome. The following tips can help you get back on the road to recovery.

Seek Help from Friends and Family

An injury can cause severe emotional and physical pain, especially if the injuries are serious. It can be especially bothersome if you’re out of work for a long period of time. Family, friends and other loved ones can help pick up the slack and offer their physical assistance through these difficult times. This could include running errands, meals and financial help.

Having someone to talk to when the going gets most difficult can also prove beneficial. Try to seek out professional and legal assistance when it comes to dealing with your feelings regarding your injury. These resources can greatly impact your road to recovery.

Psychological Assistance

A therapist can provide professional and knowledgeable assistance through a difficult injury. Feelings of loneliness and insecurity can allow your depression to skyrocket. However, good communication throughout the entire process can be good for your physical and emotional well-being. It can also contribute to a successful recovery. It may even help to discuss your plight with other individuals who are in a similar situation. Your therapist may have ideas on the best support groups necessary in order to deal with your pain and frustration.

Get Moving

While you may be sidelined with pain and depression, a physical therapist can help you through the discomfort. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, a physical therapist can offer exercises that can help speed up the recovery process. A healthy diet and exercise go hand-in-hand, so you can concentrate on foods that can fight inflammation and depression. Some excellent sources include fruits, vegetables, low-fat dairy, whole-grains, nuts and fish. Water is also a great resource that can help boost your mood and nurture your heart and soul.

Legal Help

A personal injury attorney can aid a worker in their recovery by ensuring that they receive the type of compensation for their work related injuries. This is especially important if you’re the breadwinner of the family, and you have bills to pay. The legal process in regards to an injury can pose some serious challenges, and you may need to keep on top of physician visits, receipts, doctor’s reports and claims. You may also be at a loss in regards to the rules and regulations involved with this type of injury. A personal injury attorney can be your source of comfort throughout the process, so you can concentrate on making a full recovery. This can also alleviate the stress and depression that often accompanies a workers comp injury.

Being out of work after an accident can be hard for an individual, especially if a painful injury accompanies the loss. Symptoms to look out for include feelings of despair, hopelessness, irritability, fatigue and sadness. Your physician can offer suggestions to help conquer your work-related depression. While medication can’t alleviate the problems, it can help you deal with severe pain that may be clouding your outlook on your recovery. In addition to a physician, a personal injury attorney can help you reap the costs associated with your accident, so you can focus on leading a better life.

Helping her husband through the mental and physical rehabilitation after suffering an ischemic stroke, Nadine Swayne understands the depths of despair an injury can cause and offers this information.
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5 Great Bike Safety Apps Every Parent Should Get!

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5 Great Bike Safety Apps Every Parent Should Get!

Today’s technological apps can make learning fun for your children. They are also equipped to keep your child safe whether they are navigating an open trail or traveling to and from school via the street. The following are five great safety apps every parent should download.

1. Bike Safety

If you’re looking for your child to learn the basic rules, the Bike Safety app is great for road users. Here you’ll learn everything from the correct way to cross the street and how to understand the various road signs. Your child can also gain confidence through this app by learning about the correctly clothing for better visibility and safety. Sharing the road with other cars and riders can prove dangerous if you don’t know what to do. To ensure that you avoid collisions and prevent unnecessary injuries, the Bike Safety app has current laws and rules for both children and adults.

2. Bike Smart and Walk Smart

Whether your child is a novice or expert bike rider, accidents and injuries can still occur. Fortunately, a technological company has come up with specific applications to help prevent childhood injuries. Designed for children between the ages of 5 and 9, Bike Smart and Walk Smart hopes to teach children core bicycle skills through game based animated videos. The quizzes and tests also provide immediate feedback.

3. Bicycle Run

If your child is looking to hone their skills on a bicycle, Bicycle Run is a fun and exciting way to competitively race with their friends and family members. In addition to basic trails, the app allows you to navigate hills and different terrain in hopes of making your child a better rider.

4. Bike Repair HD

Your child’s safety is of the highest priority whether they are heading off to school or a friend’s house to play. In addition to knowing the rules of the road and basics in bike safety, your child’s bike needs to run properly. This includes everyday problems such as flat tires, a busted chain and lackluster brakes. Bike Repair HD has close to 38 guides with over 50 problems experienced by bicycle riders. The app will also teach your child solutions to some basic problems using an easy to understand guide.

5. Amber Alert GPS

While you may think you live in a safe neighborhood, certain dangers do exist and can prove harmful to your child. Bike riding is an important activity for children. Fortunately, the Amber Alert GPS system works with your child’s cellphone to alert you of your child’s whereabouts. If they venture outside of the parameters that you deem safe or get into an accident, the app notifies you via email or text alert. It can also send an alert if your child comes within 500 feet of a registered sex offender’s residence. There’s also the SOS feature that allows them immediate access to help in case of an emergency.

Outdoor activities are important to your child’s health and wellness. It can also help combat childhood obesity and diabetes. While bike riding can be an excellent way for them to get exercise, it can also put them at risk for injuries. Fortunately, protecting your child through bike safety and education can prove helpful when you utilize the above smartphone apps.

As a child, freelance writer Nadine Swayne rode her bike for miles with friends. Fortunately, that was a different time in the world when things were a little safer. Nowadays, parents must have an eagle eye on their children, even during simple activities such as riding a bike or at the playground. These cellphone apps will certainly help to ease a parent’s minds on their child’s safety.
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Teaching & Modeling Empowerment (EXPERT)

How does a parent, grandparent, mentor or teacher model empowerment and confidence to the kids in their circle of influence?

The primary way anything is taught to children is through modeling. We show them the behavior we desire.  From the time they are infants, children are constantly watching and mimicking what we do and say.

They May Not Do What You Say, But What You Do

If there is a discrepancy between what we do and what we say, they learn a whole different lesson than what we set out to teach.  If you are giving your child a lecture on lying, then the phone rings and you tell him to say you aren’t home if it is your crazy Aunt Mabel, which behavior do you think he will adapt in his life?

The most important way to convey the lessons of encouragement, empowerment and confidence is to show them how to behave, or model the behavior.  The most effective way to teach your child he or she has the power to take positive action and make changes in behavior is to allow them to see you work through challenges.  We need to walk the walk, and guide them to persist in the process of a lifelong learning experience.

Teach Problem Solving

Teach and mentor others something that will improve their lives.  Sometimes just a word or gesture that shows you have confidence in their ability to problem solve gives them courage to move forward. Help them to achieve goals they can’t reach by themselves.  Empower them to succeed.

Every situation has at least five solutions.  Help them to help themselves in all areas of life. Encourage them to look at a problem from different angles and perspectives.

Acknowledge & Appreciate Success

Many of the people in your life who are top performers may be limiting their effectiveness because they don’t realize just how good they are. The greatest gift we can do for others is not to share our riches but to reveal theirs.

confidence, empowerment, problem solving, Judy Helm Wright, Auntie Artichoke, EXPERT,

Children will not always do what you say, but usually will do what you do. Model confidence

At a recent parenting class I was talking about discovering the accomplishments of their children. The goal was to have them recognize their own strengths, skills and talents. I started with a ball thrown to a participant with the instruction to yell out something they were good at and then throw the ball to another person.

Surprisingly, many of the participants had great difficulty recognizing and acknowledging their own special talents.  It took some gentle prodding and suggestions from others for them to see themselves in a new and powerful light.

Once we got going it was much easier to recognize that not everyone can make delicious chocolate chip cookies.  It is a skill to be able to be able to return an item to a store that not everyone has.  It takes someone special to be able to bring peace to a conflict at work.

Part of empowering others is to make sure we recognize and applaud our own accomplishments.  Many have been taught to not get “a big head” or that “that’s not so special.”  We need to help them reveal to themselves and others what great gifts they have been given.

 

Third Party Credibility

 

I remember hearing the phrase “Criticize in private, Praise in public” and it really seemed like a good idea to incorporate in my business and personal life.  Since the word criticize has some bad connotations for me, I prefer to use the word feedback or mentor.

You will find more about that philosophy in my parenting book How to Discipline Without Damage.

Whenever you get a chance to brag about someone do it.  That is called third party credibility and carries a lot of weight.  How do I know?  Because I leave reviews on YELP, recommendations on Angie’s list and write testimonials for people I do business with.

Don’t allow your children, friends and associates to dismiss or ignore a success.  Reveal their victories to them by documenting success on performance reviews or testimonials on Linked In or YELP. Send them a note of congratulations. Post a Hurrah on Facebook. Let them know that you noticed and were impressed with their success.

It takes so little time to empower and encourage others and yet many would prefer to be part of the destruction crew rather than the builders and enhancers of others.  I have never quite got why so many people will cheer for their team to win a football game but won’t give their own kid a high-five and an atta-boy.

Self-Awareness Quiz

  1. Do you acknowledge your own successes out loud and in your mind?  Practice saying “Yay Me.”
  2. Do you share the success of others in public by compliments, reviews and testimonials?
  3. Do you model confidence in finding solutions and assuming your own power?

Would You Benefit From A Private Coaching Session?

If so, then contact me at www.JudyHWright.com and let’s find a time to discover if we resonate and can travel the empowerment journey together.

You will be glad you did.  It costs nothing to ask and the benefits are priceless. See www.judyhwright.com  today.

 

 

The Mind Body Connection – Getting Over A Near-Fatal Accident

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The Mind Body Connection – Getting Over A Near-Fatal Accident

A person becomes very aware of how fragile life is when they experience a near-fatal accident. The life-threatening injuries, the extensive recovery period and the emotional pain that you experience during this type of event are enough to change your outlook on life. However, it is important that the change in opinion you have is for the better.

In many cases, when a person experiences this type of trauma, their natural reaction is to close themselves off from life. They are so afraid of what may happen to them that they do not want to leave their home or interact with others. This is not a good thing. It may be necessary for the person to receive professional counseling in order to get past this trauma.

An experienced personal injury lawyer will fight hard to ensure that you receive the compensation that you need to take care of your physical and emotional pain. A good way to find a local attorney is by doing a local Internet search like auto wreck lawyer in West Virginia, or Atlanta auto accident attorney.

Experiencing this type of event is life changing. However, there are steps that every person must go through to gain a full recovery. It is important to get through each step and not get stuck.

1. Denial. The first step is to be in complete denial of what has just happened in your life. You do not want to believe that you almost lost your life. You do not want to accept the severity of your injuries. You do not want to believe that everything has changed.

2. Anger. When the realization of what has happened actually sets in, it is natural to become angry. It can also be associated to the condition of PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). Why did this happen to me? Why did it have to be so bad? This is just not fair. It is a natural step in the healing process.

3. Fear. Once you have passed the anger stage, it is also very natural to enter into the fear stage. Also known as “What If,” and you begin to question everything. At this point you also may start placing limitations on yourself to prevent anything from happening again. The scenario may go something like: What if I get into another car accident again and it is worse? Maybe I should not get into a car anymore. These limitations can consume and ruin a life.

4. Gratitude. When you finally overcome the fear phase, you become very grateful that you actually survived the car accident. You acquire a new appreciation for life and for everything else. It is at this point that you can move on from this terrible event and reclaim your life.

Going through these phases will take different lengths of time for each person. We all know that everyone is different, and the experience and reaction will be different. However, everybody that does experience this must accept the fact that if they are “stuck” in one mind frame too long before they reach the acceptance phase, they may need some help.

Love and support from family and friends will help you get through this very difficult time. But if you are struggling with the emotional healing from this serious type of accident, you should seek help from a professional. If you find that your family and friends are making this request, because it is sometimes not easy to see in ourselves, take their advice and get the emotional support and therapy that you need.

A near death accident is enough to change anyone. However, it does not have to make things worse. Coming to terms with the event and finally re-finding your appreciation and gratitude for life is the only way to completely heal from this type of event.

Nadine Swayne is a freelance writer who researches traumatic car accidents. She has found an auto wreck lawyer in West Virginia that addresses the emotional toil that a car accident can take on an individual and their family. They recommend that you do not take the first offer from an insurance company but that you take the time to assess all of your damages: financial, physical and emotional.

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Thank you for being part of our community of kind, thoughtful people who have respect for all.  Be sure to claim your  free download and find out how to have Judy Helm Wright aka “Auntie Artichoke” speak at your next convention or in-service.  You can contact her at http://www.judyhwright.com   You will be glad you did.

 

Learning Disabled Teens & Teasing (EXPERT)

Learning Disabled Teens And Teasing – No Easy Answers

Expert Author Judy H. Wright

Parents, teachers, extended family and neighbors recognize the special challenges of those who love and teach learning disabled children and adults. They are usually sensitive, kind and giving as small children. Because they are small in stature, people are more forgiving of what they can and cannot do.

Teenagers With Learning Disabilities

However, as these cute little kids grow into teens and adults, they have accelerated difficulties. He/she is still very dependent, while becoming harder to control, guide and teach. The skills may be delayed, but the body and hormones are changing daily. A LD teen may not understand or confuse many aspects of life when in social situations. Sensitive to others anyway, this teen may react negatively to any correction or criticism. What may have started out as casual banter, may be interpreted as hurtful teasing.

Learning disabilities can make the social scene very hard for teens.

Brain disorders are expressed in many strange ways, included a frenzy of hyperactivity. This hyperactivity may irritate the very people the teen is hoping to attract as friends.

Teens With Learning or Physical Disability May Become Target of Teasing

As I have said in many of the previous posts and articles-bullying and teasing is about power. The bully looks for someone who can be manipulated or humiliated in order to make himself/herself feel more important. The majority of learning disable adolescents do not have social skills and the ability to communicate in order to stop the teasing. Self esteem and confidence is not easy to come by in any teenager, but may be especially lacking in those who have severe physical or learning abilities. The amount of teasing, bullying, name calling and taunting that goes on in Special Ed classes and in the hallways of schools internationally, is overwhelming. This is especially true in junior high and high school when independence is encouraged and tattling is discouraged.

What Should Teachers and Parents Do

Kindness and empathy for others hopefully is an on-going conversation in your home and classroom. Help all children, but especially those that have learning and social difficulties, to determine if it is a big problem or a small problem. If it is a small problem help them come up with techniques or ideas to solve it themselves. If it is a big problem, which involves safety, help them to communicate either with the bully or with an adult. Tattling is to get someone in trouble. Telling is to save someone from harm.

Self Awareness Quiz

1. What do you think when you see a learning disabled teen?

2. Do you feel that you have nothing in common?

3. Would you step up and intervene or find help if you saw someone being teased?

4. Do you agree with the difference between tattling and telling?

5. Can you decide what is a big problem and what is a small problem in life?

You are a smart and strong person and I have confidence you will find good solutions to help support not only learning disabled teens, but others who are being teased and bullied. Be sure to claim your free report about bullying at http://www.cyberbullyinghelp.com

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