Please remember, sexual abuse is never something a child should be blamed for. It is the duty and responsibility of adults to protect and guard those who are innocent and vulnerable. If you notice any of the emotional signs and signals of distress that are listed in this article, please take time to spend some care and gentle talking to your child.
“What went well?” is a much more positive way to teach family members to focus on the positive in life rather than the negative. Read this article for 3 tips on raising positive kids in a negative world.
Teaching respect is an important part of parenting. You cannot fake respect for others. Kids have a built in BS radar. They are very aware of adult’s moods, attitudes and belief systems. If we want them to practice kindness and respect for others, you must show respect and kindness to them.
You can make the choice to be more self-confident and assured. It is your responsibility to promote personal growth and success. This article lists 7 mental obstacles to overcome as you work toward a more confident you. If you want a better world, just build a better you.
When you build confidence, both in yourself and others, use strong words that evoke a sense of movement.
For instance; “I can do it” is certainly stronger than “I can’t do it.” Contrast that to “I choose to do it” which sounds more powerful and sure. The strongest is “I am going to do it! I will start right now and practice it every day until it becomes automatic action.”
Commit to Confidence
Making a decision that you can do something is great but making a commitment and an action plan is even better. The Universe rewards action. When you move forward, you will find assistance, guidance and doors opening for you. Life actually becomes easier once you move in a forward direction.
In my many books and articles available at http://www.ArtichokePress.com you will find the words to say to bring about positive change. I do this because sadly, many people have told me that they need the specific words and phrases because they have never heard them.
Phrases To Increase Self-Esteem and Confidence
Here is a list of 15 encouraging words and phrases that will assist you or your child to keep trying and increase self-esteem and confidence.
- “I like the way you handled that.”
- “Wow, you really thought out the solution to that problem.”
- “I have faith in your ability.”
- “I appreciate what you did.”
- “You are really showing improvement.”
- “I know you will figure out a good way to do it next time.”
- “You don’t have to be perfect. Effort and improvement are important.”
- “I trust you to be responsible.”
- “It must make you proud of yourself when you accomplish something like that.”
- “You are a valuable part of the team.”
- “It is okay to make a mistake, we all do. What do you think you learned from it?”
- “How can we turn this into a positive?”
- “I’m proud of you for trying.”
- “I’ll bet by next year you will be able to handle it, you just need to grow a little.”
- “I know you are disappointed that you didn’t win, but you’ll do better next time.”
Say Your Encouraging Words With Emotion
The stronger the positive statements spoken with emotion and deep meaning, the more the sub-conscious mind believes you and works to make it come true. That is why affirmations work. You are repeating positive statements with feeling and emotion.
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You deserve the best and I am confident in your ability to impact the world by influencing others to make wise choices through the use of encouragement and attracting the positive.
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Aunties and Uncles, Teachers and Coaches, Youth Leaders and extended families are so important to raising resilient, confident kids into adults.
Parents spend an average of seventeen hours a week in the company of their kids, but less than two hours a week devoted to interacting with them. Interacting means face to face or shoulder to shoulder time talking, playing or helping with homework. It does not mean texting or phone calls, which is connecting but not building real relationships.
3 Simple Ways to Keep Young Children Safe
As a parent, keeping your children safe is your chief priority. And there’s plenty of advice out there touting certain strategies for doing so. But it doesn’t have to be complex or difficult.
To improve the safety of your young child, we’ll keep things simple. Here are three tips for child safety success:
1) Avoid leaving children unattended
Leaving a child unattended guarantees you won’t be available to correct dangerous behavior or help in the event of an accident. And although you shouldn’t leave small children unattended unless they are in the confines of a safe bedroom or they are sleeping, there are special circumstances in which you always want to pay extra special attention.
- Your child is playing in a yard or on a playground near a road: Children often wander and can walk right into harm’s way in an instant if you aren’t paying attention.
- Your child is anywhere near a body of water: Whether your son or daughter is playing with ducks by a pond in the park, sitting on the steps of a swimming pool or just in the bathtub enjoying a bubble bath, always ensure you’re watching them to prevent drowning.
- Your child is eating: Most children will choke on food at some point in their youth, and you want to be there to offer immediate assistance if it does happen.
- Your child is playing with animals: While most pets make good companions, you should never leave your child alone with one. Pets can quickly become aggressive if agitated, and you should be there to intervene if your dog or cat attempts to bully your young child.
- Your child is in a car: No matter what the temperature is outside and regardless of whether or not you crack the windows, leaving your kids in the car is dangerous and not to mention illegal in many areas.
2) Childproof your home
How will you go about making your home a safer place? The best way to keep your kids safe at home is to childproof it. Childproofing is simply taking precautionary measures to ensure your kids don’t have access to things that can threaten their health or safety.
- Restrict access to the kitchen. Depending on the age of your child, he or she may be able to turn the knobs on the stove while it’s unattended. Or if you’re cooking, they may be able to reach the handles of pots and pans, knock them off the stove and causing them to suffer burns.
- Install covers on all your home’s electrical outlets, and add child-proof latches to cabinet doors.
- Keep matches and lighters in a safe place so kids can’t access them and inadvertently light a fire or burn themselves.
- Prevent poisoning by ensuring that your kids don’t have access to household cleaning items, cosmetic products, medicines, etc.
- For furniture with sharp edges, add protective corner bumpers to prevent injuries.
For the best results, continually scan the home environment to identity potential safety threats for your young children, and take action to correct those issues.
3) Monitor your home for burglary, fire and carbon monoxide
Getting a home security system doesn’t replace taking precautions and exercising good judgment. But it can help add to the overall home safety experience by putting you the push of a button away from professional assistance for a variety of home emergencies. With a home security system, you get fast emergency response to:
- Burglaries, home intrusions and forced entries
- House fires and smoke
- Unsafe levels of carbon monoxide
- Other common hazards including flooding and freezing
When you select home security systems, you’re not just protecting your children. You’re getting protection for your home and peace of mind, too. And when you have a safe home and peace of mind, you can enjoy spending time with the ones you love instead of worrying about what you would ever do if you experienced an emergency.
Keeping your kids safe isn’t necessarily easy. But it’s a lot less difficult if you consistently monitor your children, exercise safety precautions within the home and get protection from an external home security company. Take these three simple steps today and enjoy life as a parent more than ever have before.
4 Ways to Connect & Communicate With Your Toddler
Do you talk to your kids or with them? Do you listen to them and do you actually hear what they are trying to tell you? Does your body language (non-verbal) match what your words (verbal) are communicating? Connecting and bonding with your children will be one of the most valuable gifts and legacies that you can share with them.
If you are like most parents and caring adults, your main objective is to raise competent, well-adjusted children who become self-reliant and emotionally healthy adults. I would like to invite you to read, ponder and think how you can apply these four parts of communicating with young children today
1. Connect with them by saying their name
Before giving directions or asking them to do a task, make sure they are even on the same wave-length as you are. Squat down so you are looking at them and can engage their eyes on you instead of their toys. You may need to announce; “Emmie, I need your ears to hear what I am going to say.” “Jeffrey, I need your eyes to see what I want you to see.” As parents we also found it helpful to touch their upper arm when we needed their full attention. In return, they knew that when they touched our upper arm, they had something important to say.
2. Say what you want in short sentences, not long lectures
Be very specific in what you want. The more parents ramble and justify their position the more the kids become overwhelmed, confused and eager to say no. “I want the toys in the box now.” If it seems like they are going to argue, just repeat “Toys-box-now.” If your child can’t repeat back what you want done, it was too long and confusing.
3. When-then not If
This is the difference between a reward and a bribe. When is a measurable goal; “when you put your shoes on, then we will leave for the store and the park.” You both know if the shoes are on or off and that it is his job, there is nothing to debate, argue or throw a tantrum over. When and then implies that you expect obedience and compliance with the request.
However, you start a sentence with “If” then there is room for negotiation, whining and begging. Saying “if you put your shoes on we can go to the park after shopping” implies that he has a choice.
It is important that children know that they have some choices in life, but not everything is a choice or worthy of a decision. Sometimes, they just do what we say because we are the parent and make decisions that are in their best interest and best for the family.
Which leads us to the last and most important part of being a parent, helping the children we love and care for to be independent self-reliant individuals?
4. Help them to help themselves.
Of course it is easier and faster for us, as adults, to do things ourselves. We can zip the zipper and be on our way much quicker than we can take the time to show her one more time how to fit the zipper tab over the two sides. But this is a disservice and a discouragement to the child.
When we encourage them to learn new tasks and celebrate their capabilities that support transfers to every aspect of life. The accomplishment of a small thing today will lead to more successes every day. As they see us model making mistakes and self-correcting or adjusting our goals in life, they see that it is okay to not be perfect. The joy of knowing that you are loved unconditionally builds a foundation of confidence and self-esteem.
The more you do for your children the less time you have to do things with them. Connect and communicate your love, support and joy by building pleasant memories and strong life skills.
- Have you heard yourself saying to your toddler; “Here, just let me do it. It will be faster?”
- If your toddler wants to help, will you allow him to assist you?
- Are you aware of the natural stages of growth in small children?
- Would you like to learn more about tips and techniques to bond with your child?
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Judy Helm Wright aka “Auntie Artichoke” is an expert parent educator and speaker. If your organization would be interested in hiring Judy as a keynote speaker, please call 406-549-9813 or see http://www.judyhwright.com
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There are a wide variety of emotions that describe our needs, both met and unmet. By learning to name the upset and happy feelings, we are able to more easily communicate. It is also easier for others to help us find solutions. Being authentic with our emotions and needs is part of being a mature adult.
You don’t have to be a perfect parent (as if there ever was one–except my mother-in-law) but you do need to be a present parent. Just being there every single day and being mindful of your children is good enough. Help them to know they are loved unconditionally and teach them values and appropriate behavior and you are doing your job. Guilt free parenting is easier to achieve than you may think. Read these three simple ideas and then do the self-awareness quiz at the end. You will be glad you did.