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How To Have The “Talk” .. With Your New Teen Driver

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How To Have The “Talk” .. With Your New Teen Driver

Driving is a privilege that your teen should never enter into lightly. However, with the right amount of education, communication and discipline for rules that get broken, you can ensure that your teen is responsible and knowledgeable enough to get behind the wheel of a car.

Drivers Education Courses

Driver’s education courses are designed to teach your teen driver how to navigate the open roadway, no matter what Mother Nature seems to throw their way. It’s also beneficial in educating them on the rules, laws and guidelines. In addition to driver’s education, spending additional time with your child practicing can help them to become a confident and successful driver. It can also garner them significant discounts when it comes to registering them on your car insurance.

Drinking and Driving Don’t Mix

It’s important to keep the lines of communication open when it comes to your teen. This includes relaying the importance of never drinking and driving. In addition to the property damage, your child could get injured or take the lives of innocent victims by driving under the influence. The repercussions of a DUI can be far reaching and include fines, lawsuits, jail time, the loss of college and future employment opportunities. It may also prove beneficial to have them sit in on a Mother’s Against Drunk Drivers (MADD) meeting to get the full effect of the harm that drinking and driving can do to a person.

Roadside Safety Apps

A well-maintained vehicle can help ensure that your teen driver is safe on the road. You can also secure their safety by enrolling them as members of AAA and having them download apps. This allows them immediate emergency roadside assistance if their vehicle gets a flat tire, runs out of gas or experiences some kind of mechanical failure. Your insurance provider may also have a special app that allows them immediate contact in case of an emergency. This can provide you both with peace of mind knowing that they aren’t stranded on a desolate road.

ICE Parents

Whether you’re involved in an accident or an unexpected emergency arises, you need to ensure that your child is prepared to handle any emergency. A charged cellphone can help your teen seek emergency assistance. It also helps to have in case of emergency (ICE) contacts at the ready in the contact area of phone in case a state trooper or hospital needs to make contact with an adult. This can include parental cellphone and home numbers, insurance company, friends and family members.

Distracted Driving

One of the leading causes of death among teens is distracted driving. Laws are in place to help limit the number of teens that are able to ride in a car together. However, technological devices such as cellphones and notepads can also hinder a teen driver’s ability to focus. That’s why it’s important to teach your teen to tuck their phone away until they arrive at their destination.

Teaching your child to become a responsible driver falls on the shoulders of the parents. From drivers education courses and practice to refraining from drinking and driving and knowing what to do in case of an emergency, it’s important to impart some serious wisdom before you pass the keys over to your child.

Knowing how scary the thought of a teen driving for the first time is for parents, Nadine Swayne offers these “peace of mind’ points of information. Preparing your teen for driving can be a daunting and worrisome but, on the long road, a necessary step in keeping them safe.

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Do You Have An Indigo Child? (EXPERT)

 

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Indigo Children- Born to Lead, Hard to Manage, Do you have one at your house?

 Indigo children are children that are not content to color in the lines or glue macaroni on paper. They are very bright but also very active and curious, which can make them hard to keep up with. It often seems like Indigo children are born knowing who and what they are immediately.

What they really need are parents to guide them a little and keep them safe until they are grown up enough to accomplish what they have been sent to do. Many parents and teachers are scared of such independent spirits and want to medicate them because they are easier to handle that way.

These beautiful kind spirits are very hard to keep in the old rules of schools and families. They are self directed and don’t always get why adults want them to do things. They often believe that they are the boss.

Because they were exposed to technology in the womb, they are often very tech-savvy.  Show them an iPad or cell phone and within minutes, they know how to make it work to play games or look at cartoons.

A Few Characteristics of Indigo Children (Noted by Jan Tober and Lee Carol, Authors of “What is an Indigo Child.”)

 *  They have difficulty with absolute authority (authority without explanation or choice).

*  They simply will not do certain things; for example, waiting in line is difficult for them.

*  They get frustrated with systems that are ritually oriented and don’t require creative thought.

*  They often see better ways of doing things, both at home and in school, which makes them seem like “system busters” (nonconforming to any system).

* They seem antisocial unless they are with their own kind. If there are no others of like consciousness around them, they often turn inward; feeling like no other human understands them. School is often extremely difficult for them socially.

How do I tell if my child is an Indigo Child?

You will know. I can usually tell when a child is an indigo child because their eyes will look at you as if they can see into your soul. They are the ones who will help all of humanity to move in a better direction. A leader who will lead in their own way. Our job is to keep these Indigo Children safe and recognize what they have to teach us. They are born to lead, so let’s guide and accompany them on their journey, but let them lead the way. I am sure you probably have a child or two who come to mind when I talk about an Indigo Child.

So, now that you know what an Indigo Child is, if you didn’t already, how should you act when dealing with one?

Trust Your Intuition

There are many other books out there that will give you insight into the personality of an Indigo Child. However, your most important source of inspiration on dealing with your child is your heart and intuition. No one knows and loves your child as you do. Discuss and plan with the child systems to make life easier for both of you.

If your child has lost self esteem by trying to fit into a “regular world” please go to http://www.UseEncouragingWords.com for a free ebook which will help them recognize their inner strength. You will be so glad you did.

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Discipline But Never Punish (EXPERT)

Are you curious about the difference between discipline and punishment? Would you like to learn the truth about how to discipline without damage to the spirit of the child or employee? This interesting blog post will provide you with a unique perspective on why discipline is a positive way to help others gain competency and become competent adults.

Natural and Logical Consequences (EXPERT)

Natural and logical choices are an important part of discipline, not only with our children but ourselves as well. When we forget to pay the light bill, the electricity is shut off. That naturally follows the action. What if there is not a natural consequence to an inappropriate choice? Then we create on that is tied in some way to the learning lesson. If a child does not pick up his toys as asked, then the toys are taken away for a period of time.