Boys and reading, teens who want to work. What do other successful families do? This common sense advice column is written by Judy Helm Wright aka Auntie Artichoke, the Global Director of Solutions for Families. Easy to incorporate ideas and methods to make your family stronger and happier.
You can make the choice to be more self-confident and assured. It is your responsibility to promote personal growth and success. This article lists 7 mental obstacles to overcome as you work toward a more confident you. If you want a better world, just build a better you.
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When you are upset, you also need to have an arsenal of effective ways to calm yourself down and improving your mood. Sometimes unpleasant memories or negative self-talk will spark conflict in your heart.
It is just as easy to see yourself and the members of your family having positive character traits as to dwell on the failure and disappointment. What you focus on, you get more of. Shift your mindless chatter to good thoughts and look for the positive traits.
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Conflict is inevitable. As long as we have at least two human beings interacting, we will have at least two opinions on how things should be done. You cannot avoid conflict, but you can control it with confidence and a desire to find peaceful solutions.
Have you ever been drawn into a match of wills at work or home only to find that once you jumped in, you could not find a graceful way out? Maybe you were hoping that the other person would just give up or someone would come along to rescue you.
I have listed some ideas for you to use to rescue yourself. Read and reread and then practice these behaviors and you will see less conflict and more cooperation.
Four Confidence Clues
- Speak in short sentences. Say what you need to say, but don’t belittle the situation or the other person with long explanations. For instance, instead of saying; “Look you jerk, I worked my tail off preparing that report and all you could do is find one little error and want me to do it over again and I don’t have the time or energy to rework something that is good enough for most people.” How about saying; “I see the error you are concerned about.”
- Slow down your emotional response. Your first response is usually knee jerk reaction of revealing all the resentment, anger and justification of your actions. Your rate of speech will be very rapid and fast. When we speak rapidly, we often make mistakes or say things that are better left unsaid. Our mind also races ahead of our ability to think and form our answers. You will want to slow down so that you appear to be rational and mature.
- Watch your body language. Verbal communication is the language of information. Body or non verbal communication is the language of relationships. If your arms are crossed and foot is tapping, it sends a defensive signal right away to the other person. If possible, take a few deep breaths, put your shoulders back and put one hand in your pocket and the other hanging loosely at your side.
- Deepen your voice. Stress and anger can tighten your vocal cords, making your voice come out high and screech like. This higher pitch sends a message that you are vulnerable and emotionally overwrought. When you breathe as listed above, you will naturally relax and you will feel and hear a deeper, more confident voice coming out of your mouth. Your goal is not to avoid conflict, because that is impossible, but to control it with confidence and courage.
You can do it. I have confidence in you. If you would like to build more confidence in yourself http://www.encourageselfconfidence.com
You will be glad you made the decision to build your self confidence so you can control conflict in your life. How have you handled conflict in the past? Has that method worked for you? Leave a comment and let’s start a dialog about controlling conflict with confidence.
Judy Helm Wright aka Auntie Artichoke, family relationship author and keynote speaker
Hello from beautiful Montana:
Are you or someone you love overcome with low self esteem? A belief system which implies that you are less than others and not deserving of happiness is not serving you well. Each one of us is born with a gift or destiny. It is important that you find ways and means to build confidence and raise your self-esteem.
Build Confidence With Positive Affirmations
Our thoughts and belief systems are continually running through our minds. Are your thoughts mostly positive or negative? Thoughts are like plants in a garden, when you plant a bean (or positive thought) you get multiples of beans. You will want to plant a series of hope, success, happiness and enthusiasm seeds of positive affirmations.
Affirmations are statements of belief. Your subconscious does not grade or evaluate them. It just tries to make the actions of the individual (you) make them come true. The more you repeat a statement, the more the mind will hear the message and encourage your physical body to follow the encouragement.
Affirmations For High Self-Esteem
- I am a worthy person who treats others and myself with respect.
- I am a successful problem solver and find creative solutions.
- I draw others to me who are kind, thoughtful and helpful.
- I take care of my body and mind so I can appreciate all my talents.
- I am brave, courageous, and unafraid to change ways and thoughts that are not working for my highest good.
Negative Thoughts and Low Self-Esteem Unwelcome
I have confidence in your ability to encourage a positive attitude and high self-esteem. You can do it. You are worthy of the respect of your peers, family and friends. Just keep planting positive affirmations in your mind and acting in a confident manner.
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Judy Helm Wright aka Auntie Artichoke, family relationship author and motivational speaker