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How To Brake Your Teen’s Speeding!

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How To Brake Your Teen’s Speeding!

Handing your teenager the keys to the car can be a conflicting experience. You want your teenager to learn how to drive safely and know how to handle a car while on the road. At the same time, you want to protect your child from the dangers that come with driving on today’s roadways. A significant part of this learning process involves teaching your child to obey the posted speed limit. Getting a speeding ticket can be costly and put a dent in your teenager’s driving record. When you want to put a brake on your teen driver’s propensity for speeding, you can use these methods to your parental advantage.

Implement a Driving Contract

Many parents today use a driving contract to keep their young drivers on the right side of the law. A typical contract states that a teenager will obey the speed limit and have privileges withheld for every infraction of this rule. You may allow for a first-time offense simply because even the best of drivers sometimes forget the posted speed limit or forget to slow down in key places like school or construction zones. Even so, when you implement a driving contract and enforce it fully, you could curb your teen’s temptation to speed.

Enroll in Traffic School

Driver’s education classes and a traffic school course can differ in key ways. Driver’s education that is offered at most high schools tends to encompass many important lessons in the span of a few weeks and arguably protects students from some of the harsher realities of driving too fast. Traffic school, however, is typically held outside of the public education system and therefore is not held to the same coddling standards as high school classes. If you want your teen to see pictures and videos of what happens after a speed-induced wreck, you could enroll them in traffic school and expose your teen to a more thorough approach to learning how to drive safely.

Know the Legal Remedies for Speeding

Your teen arguably will never learn to drive within the posted limit if you them to continue without any consequences. Rather than pay the fines for this infraction yourself, for example, you should have your teen pay the ticket by using their own allowance or paycheck.

However, sometimes your teen may genuinely be innocent and be wrongfully ticketed for this offense. Cameras that are posted on traffic lights supposedly catch drivers who go to fast or breeze through red lights. If your teen has been wrongfully charged, you should hire a lawyer to evaluate the evidence and help your child avoid being fined or punished in court. Throughout this process, it is key that you include your teenager and rely on whatever evidence your child has to support their claim of innocence.

Before you allow your child out onto the road and into busy traffic, however, you should know the best ways to put the brake on your teen’s speeding. These methods could spare you a lot of worry and your family a lot of expense in paying traffic tickets.

Nadine Swayne knows how hard it is for parents to adjust to their teen driving. It can be a nerve-wracking time for all but instilling rules and consequences will hopefully curb any errant driving habits.

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5 Great Bike Safety Apps Every Parent Should Get!

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5 Great Bike Safety Apps Every Parent Should Get!

Today’s technological apps can make learning fun for your children. They are also equipped to keep your child safe whether they are navigating an open trail or traveling to and from school via the street. The following are five great safety apps every parent should download.

1. Bike Safety

If you’re looking for your child to learn the basic rules, the Bike Safety app is great for road users. Here you’ll learn everything from the correct way to cross the street and how to understand the various road signs. Your child can also gain confidence through this app by learning about the correctly clothing for better visibility and safety. Sharing the road with other cars and riders can prove dangerous if you don’t know what to do. To ensure that you avoid collisions and prevent unnecessary injuries, the Bike Safety app has current laws and rules for both children and adults.

2. Bike Smart and Walk Smart

Whether your child is a novice or expert bike rider, accidents and injuries can still occur. Fortunately, a technological company has come up with specific applications to help prevent childhood injuries. Designed for children between the ages of 5 and 9, Bike Smart and Walk Smart hopes to teach children core bicycle skills through game based animated videos. The quizzes and tests also provide immediate feedback.

3. Bicycle Run

If your child is looking to hone their skills on a bicycle, Bicycle Run is a fun and exciting way to competitively race with their friends and family members. In addition to basic trails, the app allows you to navigate hills and different terrain in hopes of making your child a better rider.

4. Bike Repair HD

Your child’s safety is of the highest priority whether they are heading off to school or a friend’s house to play. In addition to knowing the rules of the road and basics in bike safety, your child’s bike needs to run properly. This includes everyday problems such as flat tires, a busted chain and lackluster brakes. Bike Repair HD has close to 38 guides with over 50 problems experienced by bicycle riders. The app will also teach your child solutions to some basic problems using an easy to understand guide.

5. Amber Alert GPS

While you may think you live in a safe neighborhood, certain dangers do exist and can prove harmful to your child. Bike riding is an important activity for children. Fortunately, the Amber Alert GPS system works with your child’s cellphone to alert you of your child’s whereabouts. If they venture outside of the parameters that you deem safe or get into an accident, the app notifies you via email or text alert. It can also send an alert if your child comes within 500 feet of a registered sex offender’s residence. There’s also the SOS feature that allows them immediate access to help in case of an emergency.

Outdoor activities are important to your child’s health and wellness. It can also help combat childhood obesity and diabetes. While bike riding can be an excellent way for them to get exercise, it can also put them at risk for injuries. Fortunately, protecting your child through bike safety and education can prove helpful when you utilize the above smartphone apps.

As a child, freelance writer Nadine Swayne rode her bike for miles with friends. Fortunately, that was a different time in the world when things were a little safer. Nowadays, parents must have an eagle eye on their children, even during simple activities such as riding a bike or at the playground. These cellphone apps will certainly help to ease a parent’s minds on their child’s safety.
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Teaching & Modeling Empowerment (EXPERT)

How does a parent, grandparent, mentor or teacher model empowerment and confidence to the kids in their circle of influence?

The primary way anything is taught to children is through modeling. We show them the behavior we desire.  From the time they are infants, children are constantly watching and mimicking what we do and say.

They May Not Do What You Say, But What You Do

If there is a discrepancy between what we do and what we say, they learn a whole different lesson than what we set out to teach.  If you are giving your child a lecture on lying, then the phone rings and you tell him to say you aren’t home if it is your crazy Aunt Mabel, which behavior do you think he will adapt in his life?

The most important way to convey the lessons of encouragement, empowerment and confidence is to show them how to behave, or model the behavior.  The most effective way to teach your child he or she has the power to take positive action and make changes in behavior is to allow them to see you work through challenges.  We need to walk the walk, and guide them to persist in the process of a lifelong learning experience.

Teach Problem Solving

Teach and mentor others something that will improve their lives.  Sometimes just a word or gesture that shows you have confidence in their ability to problem solve gives them courage to move forward. Help them to achieve goals they can’t reach by themselves.  Empower them to succeed.

Every situation has at least five solutions.  Help them to help themselves in all areas of life. Encourage them to look at a problem from different angles and perspectives.

Acknowledge & Appreciate Success

Many of the people in your life who are top performers may be limiting their effectiveness because they don’t realize just how good they are. The greatest gift we can do for others is not to share our riches but to reveal theirs.

confidence, empowerment, problem solving, Judy Helm Wright, Auntie Artichoke, EXPERT,

Children will not always do what you say, but usually will do what you do. Model confidence

At a recent parenting class I was talking about discovering the accomplishments of their children. The goal was to have them recognize their own strengths, skills and talents. I started with a ball thrown to a participant with the instruction to yell out something they were good at and then throw the ball to another person.

Surprisingly, many of the participants had great difficulty recognizing and acknowledging their own special talents.  It took some gentle prodding and suggestions from others for them to see themselves in a new and powerful light.

Once we got going it was much easier to recognize that not everyone can make delicious chocolate chip cookies.  It is a skill to be able to be able to return an item to a store that not everyone has.  It takes someone special to be able to bring peace to a conflict at work.

Part of empowering others is to make sure we recognize and applaud our own accomplishments.  Many have been taught to not get “a big head” or that “that’s not so special.”  We need to help them reveal to themselves and others what great gifts they have been given.

 

Third Party Credibility

 

I remember hearing the phrase “Criticize in private, Praise in public” and it really seemed like a good idea to incorporate in my business and personal life.  Since the word criticize has some bad connotations for me, I prefer to use the word feedback or mentor.

You will find more about that philosophy in my parenting book How to Discipline Without Damage.

Whenever you get a chance to brag about someone do it.  That is called third party credibility and carries a lot of weight.  How do I know?  Because I leave reviews on YELP, recommendations on Angie’s list and write testimonials for people I do business with.

Don’t allow your children, friends and associates to dismiss or ignore a success.  Reveal their victories to them by documenting success on performance reviews or testimonials on Linked In or YELP. Send them a note of congratulations. Post a Hurrah on Facebook. Let them know that you noticed and were impressed with their success.

It takes so little time to empower and encourage others and yet many would prefer to be part of the destruction crew rather than the builders and enhancers of others.  I have never quite got why so many people will cheer for their team to win a football game but won’t give their own kid a high-five and an atta-boy.

Self-Awareness Quiz

  1. Do you acknowledge your own successes out loud and in your mind?  Practice saying “Yay Me.”
  2. Do you share the success of others in public by compliments, reviews and testimonials?
  3. Do you model confidence in finding solutions and assuming your own power?

Would You Benefit From A Private Coaching Session?

If so, then contact me at www.JudyHWright.com and let’s find a time to discover if we resonate and can travel the empowerment journey together.

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Learning Disabled Teens & Teasing (EXPERT)

Learning Disabled Teens And Teasing – No Easy Answers

Expert Author Judy H. Wright

Parents, teachers, extended family and neighbors recognize the special challenges of those who love and teach learning disabled children and adults. They are usually sensitive, kind and giving as small children. Because they are small in stature, people are more forgiving of what they can and cannot do.

Teenagers With Learning Disabilities

However, as these cute little kids grow into teens and adults, they have accelerated difficulties. He/she is still very dependent, while becoming harder to control, guide and teach. The skills may be delayed, but the body and hormones are changing daily. A LD teen may not understand or confuse many aspects of life when in social situations. Sensitive to others anyway, this teen may react negatively to any correction or criticism. What may have started out as casual banter, may be interpreted as hurtful teasing.

Learning disabilities can make the social scene very hard for teens.

Brain disorders are expressed in many strange ways, included a frenzy of hyperactivity. This hyperactivity may irritate the very people the teen is hoping to attract as friends.

Teens With Learning or Physical Disability May Become Target of Teasing

As I have said in many of the previous posts and articles-bullying and teasing is about power. The bully looks for someone who can be manipulated or humiliated in order to make himself/herself feel more important. The majority of learning disable adolescents do not have social skills and the ability to communicate in order to stop the teasing. Self esteem and confidence is not easy to come by in any teenager, but may be especially lacking in those who have severe physical or learning abilities. The amount of teasing, bullying, name calling and taunting that goes on in Special Ed classes and in the hallways of schools internationally, is overwhelming. This is especially true in junior high and high school when independence is encouraged and tattling is discouraged.

What Should Teachers and Parents Do

Kindness and empathy for others hopefully is an on-going conversation in your home and classroom. Help all children, but especially those that have learning and social difficulties, to determine if it is a big problem or a small problem. If it is a small problem help them come up with techniques or ideas to solve it themselves. If it is a big problem, which involves safety, help them to communicate either with the bully or with an adult. Tattling is to get someone in trouble. Telling is to save someone from harm.

Self Awareness Quiz

1. What do you think when you see a learning disabled teen?

2. Do you feel that you have nothing in common?

3. Would you step up and intervene or find help if you saw someone being teased?

4. Do you agree with the difference between tattling and telling?

5. Can you decide what is a big problem and what is a small problem in life?

You are a smart and strong person and I have confidence you will find good solutions to help support not only learning disabled teens, but others who are being teased and bullied. Be sure to claim your free report about bullying at http://www.cyberbullyinghelp.com

Thank you for being part of a community of kind, thoughtful people who want respect for all.

You have permission to reprint this article in your blog or newsletter as long as you keep the complete content and contact information intact.Thank you, Judy Helm Wright aka “Auntie Artichoke”

Teen Headed To College? 5 Off-Campus Housing Tips

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Teen Headed To College? 5 Off-Campus Housing Tips

According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 30 percent of all first-year students live on campus, and an additional 27 percent live off-campus away from their parents. However, when college students are included, from freshmen to seniors, on-campus housing is only utilized by 20 percent of the nationwide student body. 

Clearly a large percentage of students will eventually need off-campus housing. Fortunately, there is a wide variety of rental options available, including houses, but it is essential for students and parents to carefully consider many factors before selecting a place to rent or buy. If the main objective is for the parents to buy a property that the child can use during his college years, and then turn it into an investment property after, you must look at the following points from both sides of the coin, as a lessee and lessor.

Five Things To Look For In Off-Campus Housing

1. Renting or Buying – It is necessary to stay within a reasonable budget, but you also need to consider the fact that each area has an average rental rate. Attempting to go too far below this rate will force students to live in areas that are undesirable. Therefore, you should research the area under consideration. For example, if your college-bound teen wants to attend school in Austin, Texas, you can look up average rental rates online or consult an experienced realtor to help you explore your options and set an appropriate budget. A directory such as Movoto will help you localize the search areas since Austin is home to numerous universities and colleges. As buyers, parents need to look into areas that properties have a history of holding their value.

How about being the landlord instead of the tenant? You could purchase a house near campus, install your son or daughter, and pay off the mortgage by renting rooms to other coeds. This is a great way to house your college student, invest in income property, and generate income long term—as a landlord—or short term—by selling up after your young genius graduates.

2. Solid Security – For most parents facing an empty nest, their child’s safety is as important as their education. Obviously gated apartment complexes with on-site security patrols are preferable for the student and for their parent’s peace of mind. If this is beyond your budget, you can still research the crime statistics online by zip code, and the local police department can give you detailed information about a specific neighborhood. Keep in mind that the cheaper the rent is, the more likely it is that the house or apartment might be located in or near a high crime area. Even if the asking sale price might be affordable, consider how easily or difficult it would be for you to rent to other students in that area.

3. Responsive Landlord – Many people have funny or scary stories from their college years about having rented an apartment from a slumlord. Today, even for the most fearless or adventurous student, that’s simply not a wise option. Signing on the dotted line with an unresponsive landlord can mean signing up for all kinds of headaches: minimal security; poor lighting in hallways; neglected electrical and plumbing repairs; and infrequent trash collection, to name a few. If the student has a car, does the landlord provide safe well-lit parking near the building?

An indifferent absentee landlord can leave students to fend for themselves in a stressful environment, and this is not conducive to proper studying. Look for online reviews of the landlord under consideration. Talk to current tenants about their experiences. Scrutinize the lease carefully before signing.

When you are the landlord, you need to treat your renters in the same way that you would like your own child to be treated. This means taking care of repairs or maintenance in a timely manner and keeping the area safe.

4. Campus Access – Off-campus housing should not involve intensive daily commuting. Simply choosing a nice place to rent in the right city is not enough to ensure that a student will be able to easily access their classes. This is especially true in cases where the student will be relying on public transportation.

Assess the distance between each rental property that you are considering and the closest mode of public transportation that goes near the campus, both buses and trains. What’s the traffic like during rush hour? Are bus stops well lit at night? Do buses run reliably even in the evening? If the subway is involved, how safe and reliable is this service? Does the school provide shuttle service to the area where your child or your future renter will live?

5. Local Amenities – As appetizing as an area with lots of bars and restaurants might be to a college kid, it can spell disaster for their health. Look for communities with basic amenities: a grocery store; a convenience store; and a drug store. Are they all within walking distance? Do any of them offer student discounts? Is there a minimal care clinic nearby in case of emergencies?

As parents, we want the best for our children. A positive college experience is one of them. Where they live plays a huge part in that experience. When you find the perfect housing arrangement for your child, you are helping to make his college years memorable.

Freelance writer Nadine Swayne knows how crucial it is for parents to know what to look for and what questions to raise when shopping for safe off-campus housing for their young charges. Whether renting or buying, a local realtor can relieve some of the stress for parents and child.

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Creating A Baby Gift Basket? What You Need To Make It Eco-Friendly

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Creating A Baby Gift Basket? What You Need To Make It Eco-Friendly

If you’re on the lookout for the latest and greatest thing for a baby gift basket, did you know that you can combine both cutting edge with an eco-friendly bent? Keeping the planet healthy for a child’s future is becoming an important factor for many new mommies and daddies these days, and retailers are all too happy to oblige by making their products with less waste, better materials and recyclable. So where does a savvy shopper get started?

Keeping It Eco-Friendly: Smart Buys

If you’re looking to help parents save the planet while raising their offspring, there are many companies who have taken the “going green” ethos to heart, particularly when it comes to baby items. Look for key words such as “organic,” “non-toxic” and “fair-trade” when seeking out earth-friendly products. Additionally, check out these types of products which make great gifts and give you the most planet-friendly bang for your buck.

1.  Dreamy Baby Blankets

Wrapping your baby in a blanket that is naturally antibacterial, hypoallergenic, breathable and moisture-wicking (meaning it moves moisture away from the skin) will make everyone sleep tight. Also make sure it is pesticide-free.

2.  Toxic-Free Baby Bottles

The best baby bottles these days are PBA-free, versatile and completely recyclable. The use of non-toxic materials will make any parent feel good about handing them to their child, and as the baby grows up, some of the bottles can be easily converted to sippy cups. When they’re done, they can share with other parents or simply recycle.

3.  Green Playards and Baby Seats 

For that gift card item in the cute little envelope, parents who are concerned about the materials that touch their baby’s skin every day will love a green, clean new washable playard to help with months of baby care. There are also baby seats that have materials completely free of Brominated Flame Retardants (BFR) which contain potentially harmful contaminants. Some car seat companies also run a recycling program for when baby has outgrown the seat.

4.  New Diaper Fashions

Most parents don’t want to resort to using disposable diapers, but it’s difficult to deny the convenience compared to the cloth variety. Look for diapers that are made with completely organic material, are totally reusable after a wash and leak-proof. Many come in cute styles and colors, making them perfect for the fashion conscious parent as well.

5.  Natural Cleaning Items

Every parent wants to keep their baby and their baby’s play and changing area clean, but many would like to avoid harsh chemicals, focusing on natural ingredients instead. Jessica Alba’s latest venture, for example, offers families a monthly delivery of natural products including diapers, wipes, detergent, shampoo, conditioner, soap and lotions the whole family can use. Better yet, all the products and their packaging are completely recyclable.

There are many chemical-free household cleaning brands safe for baby. Also, using a playard and other multi-purpose baby items with easy to clean surfaces means there is no need for products with harmful chemicals and there is less waste of space.

6.  Organic Baby Food

Many moms and dads are concerned about what goes into their kid’s food, and with good reason. Jarred foods from the grocery store can often contain additives and preservatives that a baby doesn’t need. Baby food should be non-toxic and BPA-free.

Do a Google search to find organic baby food brands and include sites that will instruct parents on making homemade baby foods from ingredients that they know. Making their own food not only insures that their baby is eating organic and well, but can oftentimes be much cheaper as well. You can find blenders specifically designed for this purpose.

Buying green can help to maintain the planet for generations to come. Finding planet-friendly products made of non-toxic materials that are more likely to be fully recyclable may take a little extra effort, but is well worth it, so do your research to find the best products and deals. To save the new parents some valuable time, create a gift basket filled with great eco-friendly products or give them a gift card they can use to shop online with a green retailer.

Nadine Swayne is a freelance writer and green living enthusiast who believes we must all do our part to preserve the planet. She is always looking to purchase gift cards for great items like a washable playard to put into adorable gift baskets.

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Your Teen and DUI: Consequences For the Entire Family

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Your Teen and DUI: Consequences For the Entire Family

Any situation involving a DUI can have serious repercussions for accused individual. However, this is oftentimes even worse for teenager, as it can also negatively affect not only their future, but their family as well. Though everyone involved would likely wish to put this one “stupid decision” firmly behind them, drunk driving incidents can have an emotional ripple effect on the entire family.

Coping with the aftermath of your teen’s drunk driving incident is difficult enough without taking into consideration the further impact it may have on your family. Your relationship with your spouse can suffer, as can social relationships for both you and your other children. Additionally, there are financial setbacks and future plans that could possibly be severely compromised.

1) Your other children are teased at school.

Whether you live in a large city or a small town, every community has a grapevine. Even if your teen’s DUI wasn’t published in the paper, chances are, word will get around. This could result in your other children being teased by their friends, or their parents even forbidding them to come to your home. Talk to your children about how to handle teasing, and speak to other parents to let them know while you love your teenager, you do not condone their choices and would never let their child come to harm in your home.

2) The legal costs are crippling to your family’s finances.

According to Hofland & Tomsheck, Las Vegas criminal defense attorneys, criminal conviction often carries with it a range of potential consequences that can negatively impact your life forever. This includes exspensive fines can range from $500 to over $2000. From hiring a DUI attorney to court costs and fines, coping with the price can bring a huge amount of debt to a family. This may mean that birthdays and holidays suffer, as well as any planned vacations going out the window. Sit down with your family and be honest about the situation so everyone knows what to expect. While it is disappointing, sticking together during this time is key.

3) Your friends and family think you’re a bad parent.

Parents of teens caught drunk driving can often experience the cold shoulder from other parents, members of their community and even their own family. Coping with feeling “cut off” from your support system can be very depressing for everyone involved. Try to be forthcoming with your friends and family about what has happened, and that your family is trying to cope with a very serious setback. More than likely, there will be people in your circle who have dealt with similar situations who can help.

4) You and your spouse can’t stop arguing.

Stress is an enormous cause of arguments in any relationship, but the stress of a child in trouble can be doubly so. If your teenager is in trouble, it will be natural for you to be angry, and that can sometimes move into picking fights with your spouse or loved one. Try to understand the cause of your anger, and if need be, speak to a professional to counsel you and your family with your issues.

5) Your insurance is through the roof.

Insurance in the United States is expensive enough for most families without having to add a DUI charge to the mix. If your teenager is convicted with an offense or there is damage to your car or injuries, you are likely to see a big jump in your insurance costs. Shop around for your insurance provider and be forthcoming about the cause. Additionally, your teenager should also be asked to contribute towards the insurance with a part-time job.

Communication is important when dealing with the aftermath of a drunk driving charge. However, good communication is key. Take a policy of complete honesty to deal with friends and family, making sure to underline that while you do not agree with what your child did, you are trying to work through it as a family. Sticking together is the most important thing you can do.

Journalist Nicole Bailey-Covin has covered many unfortunate cases where young people have made and sometimes fatal choices in deciding to drink and drive. She encourage parents to talk to their teens and when needed don’t be afraid to monitor their children’s communications and whereabouts.  It is better to be protective and safe, than to look back with regrets.

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Do You Have An Indigo Child? (EXPERT)

 

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Judy Helm Wright, aka “Auntie Artichoke” is a parent educator and life coach who has worked with families like yours all over the world. Give her a call at 406-549-9813 to schedule a speaking engagement.

 

Indigo Children- Born to Lead, Hard to Manage, Do you have one at your house?

 Indigo children are children that are not content to color in the lines or glue macaroni on paper. They are very bright but also very active and curious, which can make them hard to keep up with. It often seems like Indigo children are born knowing who and what they are immediately.

What they really need are parents to guide them a little and keep them safe until they are grown up enough to accomplish what they have been sent to do. Many parents and teachers are scared of such independent spirits and want to medicate them because they are easier to handle that way.

These beautiful kind spirits are very hard to keep in the old rules of schools and families. They are self directed and don’t always get why adults want them to do things. They often believe that they are the boss.

Because they were exposed to technology in the womb, they are often very tech-savvy.  Show them an iPad or cell phone and within minutes, they know how to make it work to play games or look at cartoons.

A Few Characteristics of Indigo Children (Noted by Jan Tober and Lee Carol, Authors of “What is an Indigo Child.”)

 *  They have difficulty with absolute authority (authority without explanation or choice).

*  They simply will not do certain things; for example, waiting in line is difficult for them.

*  They get frustrated with systems that are ritually oriented and don’t require creative thought.

*  They often see better ways of doing things, both at home and in school, which makes them seem like “system busters” (nonconforming to any system).

* They seem antisocial unless they are with their own kind. If there are no others of like consciousness around them, they often turn inward; feeling like no other human understands them. School is often extremely difficult for them socially.

How do I tell if my child is an Indigo Child?

You will know. I can usually tell when a child is an indigo child because their eyes will look at you as if they can see into your soul. They are the ones who will help all of humanity to move in a better direction. A leader who will lead in their own way. Our job is to keep these Indigo Children safe and recognize what they have to teach us. They are born to lead, so let’s guide and accompany them on their journey, but let them lead the way. I am sure you probably have a child or two who come to mind when I talk about an Indigo Child.

So, now that you know what an Indigo Child is, if you didn’t already, how should you act when dealing with one?

Trust Your Intuition

There are many other books out there that will give you insight into the personality of an Indigo Child. However, your most important source of inspiration on dealing with your child is your heart and intuition. No one knows and loves your child as you do. Discuss and plan with the child systems to make life easier for both of you.

If your child has lost self esteem by trying to fit into a “regular world” please go to http://www.UseEncouragingWords.com for a free ebook which will help them recognize their inner strength. You will be so glad you did.

Thanks for joining our community of caring parents, family members, coaches, teachers and mentors who want to help raise a generation of responsible adults who respect others.