“What went well?” is a much more positive way to teach family members to focus on the positive in life rather than the negative. Read this article for 3 tips on raising positive kids in a negative world.
When you build confidence, both in yourself and others, use strong words that evoke a sense of movement.
For instance; “I can do it” is certainly stronger than “I can’t do it.” Contrast that to “I choose to do it” which sounds more powerful and sure. The strongest is “I am going to do it! I will start right now and practice it every day until it becomes automatic action.”
Commit to Confidence
Making a decision that you can do something is great but making a commitment and an action plan is even better. The Universe rewards action. When you move forward, you will find assistance, guidance and doors opening for you. Life actually becomes easier once you move in a forward direction.
In my many books and articles available at http://www.ArtichokePress.com you will find the words to say to bring about positive change. I do this because sadly, many people have told me that they need the specific words and phrases because they have never heard them.
Phrases To Increase Self-Esteem and Confidence
Here is a list of 15 encouraging words and phrases that will assist you or your child to keep trying and increase self-esteem and confidence.
- “I like the way you handled that.”
- “Wow, you really thought out the solution to that problem.”
- “I have faith in your ability.”
- “I appreciate what you did.”
- “You are really showing improvement.”
- “I know you will figure out a good way to do it next time.”
- “You don’t have to be perfect. Effort and improvement are important.”
- “I trust you to be responsible.”
- “It must make you proud of yourself when you accomplish something like that.”
- “You are a valuable part of the team.”
- “It is okay to make a mistake, we all do. What do you think you learned from it?”
- “How can we turn this into a positive?”
- “I’m proud of you for trying.”
- “I’ll bet by next year you will be able to handle it, you just need to grow a little.”
- “I know you are disappointed that you didn’t win, but you’ll do better next time.”
Say Your Encouraging Words With Emotion
The stronger the positive statements spoken with emotion and deep meaning, the more the sub-conscious mind believes you and works to make it come true. That is why affirmations work. You are repeating positive statements with feeling and emotion.
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You deserve the best and I am confident in your ability to impact the world by influencing others to make wise choices through the use of encouragement and attracting the positive.
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Words can hurt or heal. Choose the words you say so your voice will be one of encouragement and praise, rather than demeaning and negative. Change the way you talk to others, and change their lives and yours.
Parents, teachers, caregivers, coaches and other caring adults are concerned with how to teach values and self-esteem to the children in their lives.
The best way to build confidence and self-esteem is to find things we are good at and enjoy and do more of them. Determine what you or your child is good at and then just do more and better of that. Manage weakness but don’t concentrate on it.
It is just as easy to see yourself and the members of your family having positive character traits as to dwell on the failure and disappointment. What you focus on, you get more of. Shift your mindless chatter to good thoughts and look for the positive traits.
Think of a family as a healthy potted fern. A plant is made up of small individual stems and branches that, as separate entities, appear fragile and unsteady. From a distance, the whole appears as a mass of green foliage that forms a solid picture and is described as a plant.
Are You Afraid and Frustrated?
If you are having difficulty turning problems into opportunities, you may be discouraged. You may have a need to build your self esteem in order to overcome fear, doubts and frustrations that are impacting the life you deserve to live. Having courage does not mean that you are free of fear, despair, doubt, frustration or discouragement.
It does mean that we are able to meet life’s challenges and move forward.
Courage is Movement Forward
Any time we take action and move toward a goal, we set a process in place that will overcome negative thoughts and experiences. The Universe rewards those who know what they want and take immediate action. Sometimes, the most courageous thing we can do is to say; “This is a negative place in my life and I want to change my direction and not remain stuck here.” Making a decision to overcome fear or to just walk through the doubt is frequently the catapult to success in many areas of life
Encourage Yourself To Take First Step
By making a decision to overcome what may seem overwhelming, you will be moving forward as opposed to stagnation and paralysis. Many people are stuck in miserable situations because they are waiting for someone or something outside of themselves to decide what to do or to save them from their misery. The courage to turn a problem into a challenge is best met internally. Others may be vested in keeping you stuck. If you change and move forward, it may disrupt their safety net. It is not their problem, it is yours.
You may be looking at problems in a restricted and narrow framework. You may be basing your fear and doubt on old beliefs that no longer serve you. You may be replaying old family tapes in your head that keep you from stepping out into the future with courage and daring.
Peel Away Old Belief Systems
By getting to the root cause of our fears and doubts we can examine them in the light and reframe them for the future. This will enable us to function in a more satisfying and rewarding manner. We become what we are through our decisions, all of which require courage.
Lack of courage is often express in the decision not to make a decision.
Questions To Assist You In Overcoming Fear, Doubt and Frustration
- How do you encourage yourself when you are afraid?
- Do you recognize that you and you alone own the problem?
- Do you have old family beliefs that are holding you back?
- Are you sometimes suffer from paralysis of perfection?
- What decision will you make today that will move you forward from a stuck place?
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Best wishes for a bright and courageous future. I believe in you and you can encourage courage in yourself and overcome fear, doubt and frustration.
Judy H. Wright aka Auntie Artichoke, family relationship author and speaker
Hello from beautiful Montana:
Wow! Just when our children were raised and became intelligent, thoughtful and kind adults, along came our grandchildren
who needed encouragement and guidance. Today’s parents and teens face new challenges which make adolescence more troublesome than ever before. But one thing will never change and that is that children, teenagers and indeed all human beings want to be accepted and encouraged.
Nagging is Natural, But Not Effective
When we nag teenagers, we annoy them by persistent fault-finding, criticisms, complaints and demands. We usually fall back on nagging when our children neglect some duty that is routinely expected of them, such as cleaning their rooms, doing homework, taking out the garbage, or picking up their stuff scattered all over the house. It is not the teenager we are irritated with, but the behavior that infringes on our space and comfort.
However, young adults fail to carry out their responsibilities for any number of reasons. Their minds and bodies may be occupied with their own interests and forget how important this task is to you and the rest of the family. Getting an adolescent to do what they should do or what needs to be done to make life run smoothly is not always easy. But, our natural reaction of nagging is not only non productive but often makes the situation worse.
Mentor Teenagers Into Positive Behavior
- I am impressed with your strength. Last year you could only carry one bag of groceries and now it is two. Continue reading