Parents and families are the foundations of the world.  Dads are important to children and society as a whole.

fathers are important in the lives of their children

What we fail to teach in childhood, can never truly be made up for in adulthood.  As important as mothers are in nurturing and guiding children, it is vital that we understand and encourage dads to take part in preparing the child for society.

Dads are important not only to their children and step-children but to strengthening the society as a whole.  The typical father spends about seven hours per week in “primary child care.”  That may not sound like a lot of time bonding, connecting and teaching but it is twice as much as was recorded in 1965.

Society Needs Imput From Both Parents, Grandparents and Teachers

Rather than competing for the attentions of the baby or child, we should consider the partnership of all the caring adults who love and guide a child into adulthood.  We really do need a village to raise a kind, thoughtful, respectful and understanding child.  These are attributes that can be taught and reinforced from a myriad of loving, kind and concerned adults.

Economy Changing Face of ChildCare

No longer is the mother staying at home to raise children while the father goes out to earn the living.  The economy worldwide is dictating that parenting, childcare and day to day involvement may be shared or even shifted to the Dad.

Psychologists and sociologists agree that the father is supposed to be the chief transmitter of culturally based concepts of what is masculine and what is feminine.  Growing up beside a loving dad who talks, has interest in activities, sets guidelines and gives wise discipline will set any child on a journey of success.

Dads are important to children and if there is not one in the life of your child, find a kind, safe and loving mentor who can teach and share the lessons of life that only a man can teach. Life lessons from dads can influence a child’s life forever.

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Adult  vs. Childhood Trauma

Adult trauma is the experience of a bodily or emotional event, usually negative, as an adult verses a childhood happening. A traumatic episode can have a lasting psychic effect on both an adult or child, but especially on children who are still forming their personality.

Adult vs childhood trauma effects how the person sees adversity or negative events that occur in the journey of life.  Those who have had a strong support system and have been able to process what happened are more capable of handling additional stress than those who had no one to help them deal with the negative trauma.

Is It Trauma or Just Stressful Incident

Adults who have experienced trauma as children are more likely to perceive events in their grown lives as traumatic rather than stressful.  Adults who have had fairly trauma-free early lives tend to perceive negative  events and experiences as more isolated and have a greater stress tolerance.

Adults and children who have not dealt successfully with the  past traumatic events tend to link their current trauma to past events.  By processing and working through a traumatic event, whether as an adult or child, allows the individual to put it in a wider context of life.

The individual learns great coping skills that can transfer to other areas of life.

Do Some People Attract Trauma

Some scientific studies have shown that those with early childhood trauma  which has never been resolved or processed continue to experience more trauma as adults. The debate is how much it is a matter of perception or choice to keep attracting that to which they have unfortunately become accustomed.  Some people create crisis situations because they have become accustomed to being in crisis.

Negative Belief Systems Can Be Changed

If you were involved in either Adult or Childhood Trauma, you will want to re-examine your belief system and make sure it is serving you now.  If not, then reframe the trauma and process the experience so it is not repeated.

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