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Expert on Parenting and Family Relationships

Ask Auntie Artichoke - Expert on Parenting and Family Relationships

Invisible Wounds…Coping With the Issue of Crash Anxiety

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When you think about car accidents in general, you think of physical injuries and physical damage to your car. In most cases, you do not think about the emotional trauma that an accident can cause, or the lasting anxiety that can occur. In fact, most people do not realize how often this occurs, especially in women.

Women often become afraid of their cars if the injuries they sustained were very serious. While this does happen in men, women react this way to an accident more often because they feel that their driving skills have become diminished.When a car accident occurs, it can really impact your self-confidence about getting behind the wheel again. Anxiety and fear can also become an issue, and many people experience a complete fear of even getting into a car again. Thankfully, this can be addressed and corrected.

Overcoming Post Accident Anxiety

• Drivers Refresher Course. Sometimes this fear and anxiety can be overcome by taking a drivers refresher course. The person who is experiencing the anxiety “learns” first-hand that they are still a skilled driver and able to operate the vehicle.

• Passenger Skills. Sometimes this fear is able to be conquered by remaining a passenger for a while and feeling comfortable in the front seat of the car once more. In bad anxiety cases, the person who is affected does not even want to get into a car at all. Sometimes starting slowly as a passenger will help overcome the fear.

• Small Trips. It may take some time, but the fearful driver can begin making small errands in the car, preferably with another adult passenger. Quick trips to the grocery store will eventually become long trips.

• Therapy. Some people are so fearful of their car after an accident that they must seek professional therapy to help them overcome their problems. Once therapy has begun to show progress, they will be able to complete the steps listed above and return to driving.

Post-accident anxiety is something that is very real and must be taken seriously. If you or a loved on have been involved in a car accident and are experiencing this type of fear, it is important to seek help. It is also very important for you to discuss this fact with your car accident attorney. On this video from Long Island car accident lawyer, Gacovino Lake, you can find some insight in to the type of assistance a car accident attorney can provide to make the situation less stressful.

Of particular interest is the fact that insurance companies will show up as quickly as possible to settle your claim. You may not be aware of your anxiety about driving at that time and would not receive the appropriate compensation to pay for therapy for your anxiety.

Your attorney can make sure that prior to the settlement for your accident , the insurance company pay for any and all treatments you need to overcome this issue. Any lasting impacts that this anxiety may cause you must also be considered when a settlement is offered. If continued treatment is necessary, you need to have the financial capabilities to cover these expenses.

The worst thing that you can do is ignore these feelings. You want to make sure that you take the proper steps or receive the right therapy to address this issue. Failing to take care of the problem could result in a lifetime of not being able to drive or panicking behind the wheel. Sadly, panicking behind the wheel could lead to another accident, making matters even worse.

Georgina Clatworthy is a former legal editor and still writes on many legal topics. She has always tried to provide advice and insight on the many issues often overlooked in legal matters especially in terms of the effects caused by injuries and accidents.

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Captain Courageous: How Sailing Can Boost Your Self Esteem

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Captain Courageous: How Sailing Can Boost Your Self Esteem

Low self-esteem can have a negative impact on the every day aspects of your life. However, a hobby such as sailing can help build your self-esteem and give it the positive focus and happiness that you may be missing out of your life.

Exercise

There are a host of components that sailing can bring to your life. Cardiovascular movements through sailing can boost your endorphins and contribute to your health and wellness. Sailing is a vigorous sport that takes flexibility, agility and concentration. You can also build up muscle endurance with the repetitive movements.

Individuals who are active in a series of sporting activities such as sailing have been shown to have more confidence, especially when taught from a pro. It is very important to get lessons before taking on a sail boat in order to prevent boating accidents. As noted by one attorney at the Perecman Firm,”When a boat accident is caused by driver negligence, or the negligence of a product manufacturer, they can be held responsible for the harm caused.”

Positivity

Sailing early is a great way to start your morning. The sunny weather and focusing on something that fills your life with purpose and excitement can help overtake any feelings of inadequacy. The fresh air and enjoying the outdoors can also bring confidence when you’re an active participant in life. So many people with low self-esteem take a back seat and hide from life’s tasks. Sailing can help you find fulfillment and that sense of accomplishment in tackling an activity that takes a great deal of effort to understand.

Expert Training

In order to gain the necessary self-confidence, you need to learn from an expert. Learning to sail properly can take time, especially when you have to learn the appropriate terminology and mechanics of the sail boat. The open waters can be extremely dangerous if you don’t know how to properly navigate them. You’ll find a host of beginner courses for the novice sailor that can aid in your new hobby.

You should also start out simply by learning on a smaller boat. Once you’ve gained the experience, you’ll be ready to move toward something more challenging. An expert can also teach you what to do if you find yourself involved in a maritime accident. The weather, lack of life vests, inexperienced boating, drinking and hot dogging can all contribute to a water accident.

If you find yourself involved in a sailing accident, you want to begin by assessing injuries. You also need to notify the authorities and seek immediate assistance. For accidents of a more serious nature, you may even need the assistance of an accident injury attorney to handle your claim.

Relaxation

Sailing is a sport that can help clear your mind and help rid it of any toxicity. When an individual is experiencing low self-esteem, focusing on the negativity can be the primary train of thought for many. Being out on the open waters and enjoying a picture perfect day can help combat your worries and replace them with reasons to be happy.

Whether your self-esteem took a hit with a recent divorce or you’ve lacked it throughout your life, you can boost your confidence through various sports such as sailing. Physical activity and finding hobbies that are complimentary to your personality, such as sailing, can boost your mood and elevate how you perceive yourself.

Nadine Swayne presents this article to those who are striving to be the captain of their life. She researched the term accident injury attorney and found solid information regarding boating accidents and steps to take to navigate through troubled times.

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Empower Kids To Say NO! Sexual Exploitation (EXPERT)

Our challenge as a community of caregivers, teachers and parents is to prepare children for any eventuality of sexual exploitation without scaring them to death.

It is our job to teach them that is OK to say NO! and to have the power to speak up when they feel uncomfortable.

We have to counterbalance their natural deference to authority by providing them with a strong sense of what other people should and should not be permitted to do to them under any circumstances.  They must know that they will be supported in their efforts to act and speak out against being victimized.

"Sexting"  is a form of bullying and sexual exploitation.  Find tips for helping empower your child at cyberbullyinghelp.com

“Sexting” is a form of bullying and sexual exploitation. Find tips for helping empower your child at cyberbullyinghelp.com

Emotional Signs of Sexual Abuse

EMOTIONAL SIGNS

 

  • An unusually quiet and fearful disposition, especially when in the company of one person.  For instance if your daughter leaves the room whenever Grandpa comes or sits through dinner when he is present, with her eyes downcast or seems more anxious when she hears he is coming to visit, be suspicious.

 

  • The child may exhibit a series of stress symptoms; fear of a particular place or person, fear of the dark, stomachs, or headaches.

 

  • An outgoing child may become shy or vice versa.  A child who has up till now usually been obedient, but now is rebelling, may be asking for help in setting boundaries.

 

  • Sleep disturbances, nightmares, bedwetting, fear of sleeping alone, needing a nightlight.

 

  • Lots of new fears, needing much more reassurance than in the past.

 

  • A return to a younger, more babyish behavior.
  • Withdrawal—usually into a fantasy world, exhibiting infantile behavior; may even appear retarded.

 

  • Irritability, excessive crying, visibly emotional.

 

  • Easily intimidated by older children, fear of male adults; often manifested in cowering, crying, being easily startled.

 

  • Low self esteem.

 

  • An offender may become extremely protective of the child and jealous of the child’s social life for fear of losing the child’s allegiance to others.

 

If, for whatever reason, they are not being protected within their own homes, they need to know that there are other supportive avenues of help available.  In that regard, school personnel and other adults who have contact with children must be alert to the visual signs and halting messages of children in trouble.

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Phrases to Build Confidence

When you build confidence, both in yourself and others, use strong words that evoke a sense of movement.

For instance; “I can do it” is certainly stronger than “I can’t do it.” Contrast that to “I choose to do it” which sounds more powerful and sure. The strongest is “I am going to do it! I will start right now and practice it every day until it becomes automatic action.”

Commit to Confidence

Making a decision that you can do something is great but making a commitment and an action plan is even better.  The Universe rewards action.  When you move forward, you will find assistance, guidance and doors opening for you.  Life actually becomes easier once you move in a forward direction.

In my many books and articles available at http://www.ArtichokePress.com  you will find the words to say to bring about positive change.  I do this because sadly, many people have told me that they need the specific words and phrases because they have never heard them.

Phrases To Increase Self-Esteem and Confidence

Here is a list of 15 encouraging words and phrases that will assist you or your child to keep trying and increase self-esteem and confidence.

  1. “I like the way you handled that.”
  2. “Wow, you really thought out the solution to that problem.”
  3. “I have faith in your ability.”
  4. “I appreciate what you did.”
  5. “You are really showing improvement.”
  6. “I know you will figure out a good way to do it next time.”
  7. “You don’t have to be perfect. Effort and improvement are important.”
  8. “I trust you to be responsible.”
  9. “It must make you proud of yourself when you accomplish something like that.”
  10. “You are a valuable part of the team.”
  11. “It is okay to make a mistake, we all do. What do you think you learned from it?”
  12. “How can we turn this into a positive?”
  13. “I’m proud of you for trying.”
  14. “I’ll bet by next year you will be able to handle it, you just need to grow a little.”
  15. “I know you are disappointed that you didn’t win, but you’ll do better next time.”

Say Your Encouraging Words With Emotion

The stronger the positive statements spoken with emotion and deep meaning, the more the sub-conscious mind believes you and works to make it come true. That is why affirmations work. You are repeating positive statements with feeling and emotion.

Claim a copy of the audio book Affirmations For Abundance  at http://www.ArtichokePress.com and listen to it daily for 21 days as you commute to work or walk around the park.  You will see a big difference in your belief system and inner confidence.

You deserve the best and I am confident in your ability to impact the world by influencing others to make wise choices through the use of encouragement and attracting the positive.

 

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