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Expert on Parenting and Family Relationships

Ask Auntie Artichoke - Expert on Parenting and Family Relationships

Mean Girls & Tough Boys–Bullying At Any Age (EXPERT)

Tough boys and Mean girls have always been around. Bullying is a catch-all phrase for an imbalance of power or strength that is either real or perceived. There is a potential for the greater power to intentionally threaten or harm the weaker one. This power struggles usually takes place over a sustained period of time and has the potential to escalate into violence. Bullying can harm indivduals, families, schools and communties. For more information please see http://www.cyberbullyinghelp.com

Does My Son Have An Eating Disorder?

Does Your Son Have An Eating Disorder? Often people think of anorexia and a vision of a girl pops into our mind. However, there are many young men who also suffer from poor body image and develop eating disorders. This article contains tips to spot an eating disorder with your son and methods to overcome and prevent it. Get the facts on eating issues and disorders here. You will be glad you did. http://www.AskAuntieArtichoke.com

How To Brake Your Teen’s Speeding!

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How To Brake Your Teen’s Speeding!

Handing your teenager the keys to the car can be a conflicting experience. You want your teenager to learn how to drive safely and know how to handle a car while on the road. At the same time, you want to protect your child from the dangers that come with driving on today’s roadways. A significant part of this learning process involves teaching your child to obey the posted speed limit. Getting a speeding ticket can be costly and put a dent in your teenager’s driving record. When you want to put a brake on your teen driver’s propensity for speeding, you can use these methods to your parental advantage.

Implement a Driving Contract

Many parents today use a driving contract to keep their young drivers on the right side of the law. A typical contract states that a teenager will obey the speed limit and have privileges withheld for every infraction of this rule. You may allow for a first-time offense simply because even the best of drivers sometimes forget the posted speed limit or forget to slow down in key places like school or construction zones. Even so, when you implement a driving contract and enforce it fully, you could curb your teen’s temptation to speed.

Enroll in Traffic School

Driver’s education classes and a traffic school course can differ in key ways. Driver’s education that is offered at most high schools tends to encompass many important lessons in the span of a few weeks and arguably protects students from some of the harsher realities of driving too fast. Traffic school, however, is typically held outside of the public education system and therefore is not held to the same coddling standards as high school classes. If you want your teen to see pictures and videos of what happens after a speed-induced wreck, you could enroll them in traffic school and expose your teen to a more thorough approach to learning how to drive safely.

Know the Legal Remedies for Speeding

Your teen arguably will never learn to drive within the posted limit if you them to continue without any consequences. Rather than pay the fines for this infraction yourself, for example, you should have your teen pay the ticket by using their own allowance or paycheck.

However, sometimes your teen may genuinely be innocent and be wrongfully ticketed for this offense. Cameras that are posted on traffic lights supposedly catch drivers who go to fast or breeze through red lights. If your teen has been wrongfully charged, you should hire a lawyer to evaluate the evidence and help your child avoid being fined or punished in court. Throughout this process, it is key that you include your teenager and rely on whatever evidence your child has to support their claim of innocence.

Before you allow your child out onto the road and into busy traffic, however, you should know the best ways to put the brake on your teen’s speeding. These methods could spare you a lot of worry and your family a lot of expense in paying traffic tickets.

Nadine Swayne knows how hard it is for parents to adjust to their teen driving. It can be a nerve-wracking time for all but instilling rules and consequences will hopefully curb any errant driving habits.

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5 Great Bike Safety Apps Every Parent Should Get!

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5 Great Bike Safety Apps Every Parent Should Get!

Today’s technological apps can make learning fun for your children. They are also equipped to keep your child safe whether they are navigating an open trail or traveling to and from school via the street. The following are five great safety apps every parent should download.

1. Bike Safety

If you’re looking for your child to learn the basic rules, the Bike Safety app is great for road users. Here you’ll learn everything from the correct way to cross the street and how to understand the various road signs. Your child can also gain confidence through this app by learning about the correctly clothing for better visibility and safety. Sharing the road with other cars and riders can prove dangerous if you don’t know what to do. To ensure that you avoid collisions and prevent unnecessary injuries, the Bike Safety app has current laws and rules for both children and adults.

2. Bike Smart and Walk Smart

Whether your child is a novice or expert bike rider, accidents and injuries can still occur. Fortunately, a technological company has come up with specific applications to help prevent childhood injuries. Designed for children between the ages of 5 and 9, Bike Smart and Walk Smart hopes to teach children core bicycle skills through game based animated videos. The quizzes and tests also provide immediate feedback.

3. Bicycle Run

If your child is looking to hone their skills on a bicycle, Bicycle Run is a fun and exciting way to competitively race with their friends and family members. In addition to basic trails, the app allows you to navigate hills and different terrain in hopes of making your child a better rider.

4. Bike Repair HD

Your child’s safety is of the highest priority whether they are heading off to school or a friend’s house to play. In addition to knowing the rules of the road and basics in bike safety, your child’s bike needs to run properly. This includes everyday problems such as flat tires, a busted chain and lackluster brakes. Bike Repair HD has close to 38 guides with over 50 problems experienced by bicycle riders. The app will also teach your child solutions to some basic problems using an easy to understand guide.

5. Amber Alert GPS

While you may think you live in a safe neighborhood, certain dangers do exist and can prove harmful to your child. Bike riding is an important activity for children. Fortunately, the Amber Alert GPS system works with your child’s cellphone to alert you of your child’s whereabouts. If they venture outside of the parameters that you deem safe or get into an accident, the app notifies you via email or text alert. It can also send an alert if your child comes within 500 feet of a registered sex offender’s residence. There’s also the SOS feature that allows them immediate access to help in case of an emergency.

Outdoor activities are important to your child’s health and wellness. It can also help combat childhood obesity and diabetes. While bike riding can be an excellent way for them to get exercise, it can also put them at risk for injuries. Fortunately, protecting your child through bike safety and education can prove helpful when you utilize the above smartphone apps.

As a child, freelance writer Nadine Swayne rode her bike for miles with friends. Fortunately, that was a different time in the world when things were a little safer. Nowadays, parents must have an eagle eye on their children, even during simple activities such as riding a bike or at the playground. These cellphone apps will certainly help to ease a parent’s minds on their child’s safety.
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How To Have The “Talk” .. With Your New Teen Driver

Buying a new (old) car for a new driver is harder than you would think?

How To Have The “Talk” .. With Your New Teen Driver

Driving is a privilege that your teen should never enter into lightly. However, with the right amount of education, communication and discipline for rules that get broken, you can ensure that your teen is responsible and knowledgeable enough to get behind the wheel of a car.

Drivers Education Courses

Driver’s education courses are designed to teach your teen driver how to navigate the open roadway, no matter what Mother Nature seems to throw their way. It’s also beneficial in educating them on the rules, laws and guidelines. In addition to driver’s education, spending additional time with your child practicing can help them to become a confident and successful driver. It can also garner them significant discounts when it comes to registering them on your car insurance.

Drinking and Driving Don’t Mix

It’s important to keep the lines of communication open when it comes to your teen. This includes relaying the importance of never drinking and driving. In addition to the property damage, your child could get injured or take the lives of innocent victims by driving under the influence. The repercussions of a DUI can be far reaching and include fines, lawsuits, jail time, the loss of college and future employment opportunities. It may also prove beneficial to have them sit in on a Mother’s Against Drunk Drivers (MADD) meeting to get the full effect of the harm that drinking and driving can do to a person.

Roadside Safety Apps

A well-maintained vehicle can help ensure that your teen driver is safe on the road. You can also secure their safety by enrolling them as members of AAA and having them download apps. This allows them immediate emergency roadside assistance if their vehicle gets a flat tire, runs out of gas or experiences some kind of mechanical failure. Your insurance provider may also have a special app that allows them immediate contact in case of an emergency. This can provide you both with peace of mind knowing that they aren’t stranded on a desolate road.

ICE Parents

Whether you’re involved in an accident or an unexpected emergency arises, you need to ensure that your child is prepared to handle any emergency. A charged cellphone can help your teen seek emergency assistance. It also helps to have in case of emergency (ICE) contacts at the ready in the contact area of phone in case a state trooper or hospital needs to make contact with an adult. This can include parental cellphone and home numbers, insurance company, friends and family members.

Distracted Driving

One of the leading causes of death among teens is distracted driving. Laws are in place to help limit the number of teens that are able to ride in a car together. However, technological devices such as cellphones and notepads can also hinder a teen driver’s ability to focus. That’s why it’s important to teach your teen to tuck their phone away until they arrive at their destination.

Teaching your child to become a responsible driver falls on the shoulders of the parents. From drivers education courses and practice to refraining from drinking and driving and knowing what to do in case of an emergency, it’s important to impart some serious wisdom before you pass the keys over to your child.

Knowing how scary the thought of a teen driving for the first time is for parents, Nadine Swayne offers these “peace of mind’ points of information. Preparing your teen for driving can be a daunting and worrisome but, on the long road, a necessary step in keeping them safe.

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Teaching & Modeling Empowerment (EXPERT)

How does a parent, grandparent, mentor or teacher model empowerment and confidence to the kids in their circle of influence?

The primary way anything is taught to children is through modeling. We show them the behavior we desire.  From the time they are infants, children are constantly watching and mimicking what we do and say.

They May Not Do What You Say, But What You Do

If there is a discrepancy between what we do and what we say, they learn a whole different lesson than what we set out to teach.  If you are giving your child a lecture on lying, then the phone rings and you tell him to say you aren’t home if it is your crazy Aunt Mabel, which behavior do you think he will adapt in his life?

The most important way to convey the lessons of encouragement, empowerment and confidence is to show them how to behave, or model the behavior.  The most effective way to teach your child he or she has the power to take positive action and make changes in behavior is to allow them to see you work through challenges.  We need to walk the walk, and guide them to persist in the process of a lifelong learning experience.

Teach Problem Solving

Teach and mentor others something that will improve their lives.  Sometimes just a word or gesture that shows you have confidence in their ability to problem solve gives them courage to move forward. Help them to achieve goals they can’t reach by themselves.  Empower them to succeed.

Every situation has at least five solutions.  Help them to help themselves in all areas of life. Encourage them to look at a problem from different angles and perspectives.

Acknowledge & Appreciate Success

Many of the people in your life who are top performers may be limiting their effectiveness because they don’t realize just how good they are. The greatest gift we can do for others is not to share our riches but to reveal theirs.

confidence, empowerment, problem solving, Judy Helm Wright, Auntie Artichoke, EXPERT,

Children will not always do what you say, but usually will do what you do. Model confidence

At a recent parenting class I was talking about discovering the accomplishments of their children. The goal was to have them recognize their own strengths, skills and talents. I started with a ball thrown to a participant with the instruction to yell out something they were good at and then throw the ball to another person.

Surprisingly, many of the participants had great difficulty recognizing and acknowledging their own special talents.  It took some gentle prodding and suggestions from others for them to see themselves in a new and powerful light.

Once we got going it was much easier to recognize that not everyone can make delicious chocolate chip cookies.  It is a skill to be able to be able to return an item to a store that not everyone has.  It takes someone special to be able to bring peace to a conflict at work.

Part of empowering others is to make sure we recognize and applaud our own accomplishments.  Many have been taught to not get “a big head” or that “that’s not so special.”  We need to help them reveal to themselves and others what great gifts they have been given.

 

Third Party Credibility

 

I remember hearing the phrase “Criticize in private, Praise in public” and it really seemed like a good idea to incorporate in my business and personal life.  Since the word criticize has some bad connotations for me, I prefer to use the word feedback or mentor.

You will find more about that philosophy in my parenting book How to Discipline Without Damage.

Whenever you get a chance to brag about someone do it.  That is called third party credibility and carries a lot of weight.  How do I know?  Because I leave reviews on YELP, recommendations on Angie’s list and write testimonials for people I do business with.

Don’t allow your children, friends and associates to dismiss or ignore a success.  Reveal their victories to them by documenting success on performance reviews or testimonials on Linked In or YELP. Send them a note of congratulations. Post a Hurrah on Facebook. Let them know that you noticed and were impressed with their success.

It takes so little time to empower and encourage others and yet many would prefer to be part of the destruction crew rather than the builders and enhancers of others.  I have never quite got why so many people will cheer for their team to win a football game but won’t give their own kid a high-five and an atta-boy.

Self-Awareness Quiz

  1. Do you acknowledge your own successes out loud and in your mind?  Practice saying “Yay Me.”
  2. Do you share the success of others in public by compliments, reviews and testimonials?
  3. Do you model confidence in finding solutions and assuming your own power?

Would You Benefit From A Private Coaching Session?

If so, then contact me at www.JudyHWright.com and let’s find a time to discover if we resonate and can travel the empowerment journey together.

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10 Most Common Jobs That Risk Safety for Higher Pay

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10 Most Common Jobs That Risk Safety for Higher Pay

America’s job market definitely isn’t the most robust in the world right now, but luckily, it has shown improvement. This means that more and more people have finally been able to find jobs to support themselves and their families. That said, there are actually several great paying careers available that people avoid due to fear of injury. It’s a reality in America that, in some instances, employees do trade off their safety for a better paycheck.

Money vs. Safety

Higher pay certainly is a great motivation for anyone. Trading off potential injury for a job should always be a mitigated risk, meaning that you should look into ways to decrease the risks associated with the job. You should also look into continuing education and training that will ensure your safety. Research what types of benefits you’ll be eligible for if you do become injured, disabled or can’t work for a time before making a final decision whether to take the job or not.

Mining, agriculture and construction are a few of the more dangerous industries, with illnesses and fatalities, according to the US Department of Labor. In some states, such as North Carolina, “a worker who gets hurt doing any job-related task is entitled to benefits…you do not have to show your employer was careless, negligent or did anything wrong to get benefits. Workers’ compensation insurance covers all work injuries regardless of their cause because the goal is to provide protection for workers.”1

Research the policies for your specific state concerning workers’ comp if you are considering a high-risk career.

10 Most Dangerous Jobs:

Miner: Coal mining is one of the most dangerous industries that a person could engage in. Dangers include cave-ins, exposure to toxic gases, explosions, and fires. However, coal miners can earn between $45,000 to $75,000 yearly with little to no experience. Until a better renewable energy source is found, coal miners are still in high demand.

Logger: With a fatality rate of 127.8 for every 100,000 workers, logging jobs are amongst the most dangerous that any American could engage in. Not only are loggers working with saws and heavy machinery, they can’t predict when nature will make a “widow maker,” by dropping branches from a great distance.

Electrician: There is a constant need for electricians, both for new construction and for maintenance of existing structures. Typical yearly fatalities run to 62 a year and an average of 15 missed workdays to injury. Electricians with a college education can earn up to $93,000 per year. The median salary is closer to $50,000.

Police Officer: Police Officers miss at least 15 days every single year due to work-related injuries. Salaries are over $55,000 but the average police officers must deal with the dregs of society and criminals daily.

Construction Worker: It’s common for the construction industry to have fatalities. In 2007, there were 160. With heavy machinery, tools, scaffolding, and building materials present, a construction site is one of the most dangerous places to be in and a hard hat’s protection can only go so far.

Commercial Fisherman: From crabbers to longliners, those involved in commercial fishing face serious dangers because they are dependent on things which they have no control over, like weather or ocean predators.

Commercial Diver: The median pay for commercial divers is nearly $50,000,

but the highest industry pay comes in at nearly $94,000. Some commercial divers actually report making well over $100,000. The high rate of injury at 429.6 per 10,000 divers is often overlooked because of the salaries offered.

Private Detective: The median annual salary for a private detective is over $45,000, and top earners can get nearly $80,000. While only one death occurs in this industry per year, the median amount of work days missed due to injury is an astounding 43. The bulk of these injuries are a result of physical altercations and auto accidents.

Athlete: Professional athletes can garner an unimaginable high salary. But their bodies are subjected to abuse and overuse daily. Careers have been extinguished by injuries sustained on the field and court.

Pilot: Top pilots can earn nearly $200,000 a year. With only four pilot deaths a year, some say being a pilot is one of the safest jobs. But as plane fleets are aging and terrorism on the rise, air disasters have increased recently.

Priceless Contributions

There’s no denying that the aforementioned jobs all present their own serious dangers to those employed within them. Luckily for the rest of the world, some people are more suited for high-risk jobs than desk jobs. Because of them, standards of living are not interrupted.

Appreciation must be shown to these brave individuals for their readiness to face danger daily. We must also remember and pay tribute to all the men and women in the military who ensure America’s safety.

Nadine Swayne contributes this article to those brave souls who work dangerous jobs to support their families. Although the pay may be enticing, the risk sometimes outweighs the employment journey. Remember, take into account all the pros and cons, including your family, if you are injured and the life changing elements you may face.

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Adapting Your Home for a Newly Injured Family Member

 

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In the blink of an eye, the world of a loved one can change. Life altering injuries can be a challenge to your household routine. If a family member sustained an injury in a car accident or was the victim of medical malpractice, you may need to make home improvements to accommodate that person’s needs.

Accidents and medical mistakes can limit your family member’s mobility, cause chronic pain or restrict their ability to personally groom and care for themselves. Because of these issues, your family member may need a wheelchair, walker or other equipment in order to move around.

So, to accommodate the equipment your family member needs, it may be necessary for you to make home improvements.

It’s Not Always DIY

If minor changes are needed, you may be able to do it yourself (DIY). But beyond that, you may have to hire a professional to make the improvements. The following are five common home improvements you may want to consider to make your house more accessible for your recently injured family member:

1. Install railings. With railing along the walls and in bathroom showers and tubs, your family member can grab on to something that will help them maintain their balance and feel secure while they are stepping into and out of the shower or getting out of a wheelchair.

2. Walk-in bathtubs and benches. There are specialized bathtubs that accommodate wheelchairs and benches that your family member can sit on in the shower. In this way, your family member can take care of their hygienic needs in private, if they still have the use of their upper body.

3. Flooring. It’s difficult to move medical equipment with wheels across carpeting. Therefore, you will need to install smooth flooring, if you don’t already have it underneath your carpeting, to allow for the mobility of walkers and wheelchairs.

4. Widening entryways and hallways. Equipment with wheels causes dings in the walls or dents on the doors. The average house cannot accommodate large medical equipment with wheels, which is why widening is necessary.

5. Wheelchair ramps. It’s difficult to take a wheelchair up and down the outside steps of a house with someone sitting in it. It’s much easier to use a wheelchair ramp.

The home improvements you make will depend on your family member’s disability. You may also have to put in new shelving, lighting, or automated features, such as door openers.

Financial Help for Repairs

Since your family member was injured through no fault of their own, they may need to speak with a personal injury attorney. People who have been injured due to someone else’s negligence may be entitled to receive damages from that person or that person’s insurance company.

A personal injury attorney will question your family member about the details of the accident or medical malpractice to determine whether they can file a claim. If so, the attorney would act as your family member’s legal representative and contact the parties responsible for the injuries and negotiate a settlement. If necessary, the attorney would advise your family member of their rights to take the matter to trial.

Making home improvements tends to be costly, and most of the expenses are coming out of your pocket. With help from a personal injury attorney, your family member may be able to get the compensation they deserve. Not only will this help your loved one, it will also help you in the long run.

Nadine Swayne is a freelance writer who researched disability home improvement for her husband who suffered a stroke. She was able to find information for this article online by searching personal injury attorney and car accident recovery.

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Learning Disabled Teens & Teasing (EXPERT)

Learning Disabled Teens And Teasing – No Easy Answers

Expert Author Judy H. Wright

Parents, teachers, extended family and neighbors recognize the special challenges of those who love and teach learning disabled children and adults. They are usually sensitive, kind and giving as small children. Because they are small in stature, people are more forgiving of what they can and cannot do.

Teenagers With Learning Disabilities

However, as these cute little kids grow into teens and adults, they have accelerated difficulties. He/she is still very dependent, while becoming harder to control, guide and teach. The skills may be delayed, but the body and hormones are changing daily. A LD teen may not understand or confuse many aspects of life when in social situations. Sensitive to others anyway, this teen may react negatively to any correction or criticism. What may have started out as casual banter, may be interpreted as hurtful teasing.

Learning disabilities can make the social scene very hard for teens.

Brain disorders are expressed in many strange ways, included a frenzy of hyperactivity. This hyperactivity may irritate the very people the teen is hoping to attract as friends.

Teens With Learning or Physical Disability May Become Target of Teasing

As I have said in many of the previous posts and articles-bullying and teasing is about power. The bully looks for someone who can be manipulated or humiliated in order to make himself/herself feel more important. The majority of learning disable adolescents do not have social skills and the ability to communicate in order to stop the teasing. Self esteem and confidence is not easy to come by in any teenager, but may be especially lacking in those who have severe physical or learning abilities. The amount of teasing, bullying, name calling and taunting that goes on in Special Ed classes and in the hallways of schools internationally, is overwhelming. This is especially true in junior high and high school when independence is encouraged and tattling is discouraged.

What Should Teachers and Parents Do

Kindness and empathy for others hopefully is an on-going conversation in your home and classroom. Help all children, but especially those that have learning and social difficulties, to determine if it is a big problem or a small problem. If it is a small problem help them come up with techniques or ideas to solve it themselves. If it is a big problem, which involves safety, help them to communicate either with the bully or with an adult. Tattling is to get someone in trouble. Telling is to save someone from harm.

Self Awareness Quiz

1. What do you think when you see a learning disabled teen?

2. Do you feel that you have nothing in common?

3. Would you step up and intervene or find help if you saw someone being teased?

4. Do you agree with the difference between tattling and telling?

5. Can you decide what is a big problem and what is a small problem in life?

You are a smart and strong person and I have confidence you will find good solutions to help support not only learning disabled teens, but others who are being teased and bullied. Be sure to claim your free report about bullying at http://www.cyberbullyinghelp.com

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