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How does a parent, grandparent, mentor or teacher model empowerment and confidence to the kids in their circle of influence?
The primary way anything is taught to children is through modeling. We show them the behavior we desire. From the time they are infants, children are constantly watching and mimicking what we do and say.
They May Not Do What You Say, But What You Do
If there is a discrepancy between what we do and what we say, they learn a whole different lesson than what we set out to teach. If you are giving your child a lecture on lying, then the phone rings and you tell him to say you aren’t home if it is your crazy Aunt Mabel, which behavior do you think he will adapt in his life?
The most important way to convey the lessons of encouragement, empowerment and confidence is to show them how to behave, or model the behavior. The most effective way to teach your child he or she has the power to take positive action and make changes in behavior is to allow them to see you work through challenges. We need to walk the walk, and guide them to persist in the process of a lifelong learning experience.
Teach Problem Solving
Teach and mentor others something that will improve their lives. Sometimes just a word or gesture that shows you have confidence in their ability to problem solve gives them courage to move forward. Help them to achieve goals they can’t reach by themselves. Empower them to succeed.
Every situation has at least five solutions. Help them to help themselves in all areas of life. Encourage them to look at a problem from different angles and perspectives.
Acknowledge & Appreciate Success
Many of the people in your life who are top performers may be limiting their effectiveness because they don’t realize just how good they are. The greatest gift we can do for others is not to share our riches but to reveal theirs.
At a recent parenting class I was talking about discovering the accomplishments of their children. The goal was to have them recognize their own strengths, skills and talents. I started with a ball thrown to a participant with the instruction to yell out something they were good at and then throw the ball to another person.
Surprisingly, many of the participants had great difficulty recognizing and acknowledging their own special talents. It took some gentle prodding and suggestions from others for them to see themselves in a new and powerful light.
Once we got going it was much easier to recognize that not everyone can make delicious chocolate chip cookies. It is a skill to be able to be able to return an item to a store that not everyone has. It takes someone special to be able to bring peace to a conflict at work.
Part of empowering others is to make sure we recognize and applaud our own accomplishments. Many have been taught to not get “a big head” or that “that’s not so special.” We need to help them reveal to themselves and others what great gifts they have been given.
Third Party Credibility
I remember hearing the phrase “Criticize in private, Praise in public” and it really seemed like a good idea to incorporate in my business and personal life. Since the word criticize has some bad connotations for me, I prefer to use the word feedback or mentor.
You will find more about that philosophy in my parenting book How to Discipline Without Damage.
Whenever you get a chance to brag about someone do it. That is called third party credibility and carries a lot of weight. How do I know? Because I leave reviews on YELP, recommendations on Angie’s list and write testimonials for people I do business with.
Don’t allow your children, friends and associates to dismiss or ignore a success. Reveal their victories to them by documenting success on performance reviews or testimonials on Linked In or YELP. Send them a note of congratulations. Post a Hurrah on Facebook. Let them know that you noticed and were impressed with their success.
It takes so little time to empower and encourage others and yet many would prefer to be part of the destruction crew rather than the builders and enhancers of others. I have never quite got why so many people will cheer for their team to win a football game but won’t give their own kid a high-five and an atta-boy.
- Do you acknowledge your own successes out loud and in your mind? Practice saying “Yay Me.”
- Do you share the success of others in public by compliments, reviews and testimonials?
- Do you model confidence in finding solutions and assuming your own power?
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Indigo Children- Born to Lead, Hard to Manage, Do you have one at your house?
Indigo children are children that are not content to color in the lines or glue macaroni on paper. They are very bright but also very active and curious, which can make them hard to keep up with. It often seems like Indigo children are born knowing who and what they are immediately.
What they really need are parents to guide them a little and keep them safe until they are grown up enough to accomplish what they have been sent to do. Many parents and teachers are scared of such independent spirits and want to medicate them because they are easier to handle that way.
These beautiful kind spirits are very hard to keep in the old rules of schools and families. They are self directed and don’t always get why adults want them to do things. They often believe that they are the boss.
Because they were exposed to technology in the womb, they are often very tech-savvy. Show them an iPad or cell phone and within minutes, they know how to make it work to play games or look at cartoons.
A Few Characteristics of Indigo Children (Noted by Jan Tober and Lee Carol, Authors of “What is an Indigo Child.”)
* They have difficulty with absolute authority (authority without explanation or choice).
* They simply will not do certain things; for example, waiting in line is difficult for them.
* They get frustrated with systems that are ritually oriented and don’t require creative thought.
* They often see better ways of doing things, both at home and in school, which makes them seem like “system busters” (nonconforming to any system).
* They seem antisocial unless they are with their own kind. If there are no others of like consciousness around them, they often turn inward; feeling like no other human understands them. School is often extremely difficult for them socially.
How do I tell if my child is an Indigo Child?
You will know. I can usually tell when a child is an indigo child because their eyes will look at you as if they can see into your soul. They are the ones who will help all of humanity to move in a better direction. A leader who will lead in their own way. Our job is to keep these Indigo Children safe and recognize what they have to teach us. They are born to lead, so let’s guide and accompany them on their journey, but let them lead the way. I am sure you probably have a child or two who come to mind when I talk about an Indigo Child.
So, now that you know what an Indigo Child is, if you didn’t already, how should you act when dealing with one?
Trust Your Intuition
There are many other books out there that will give you insight into the personality of an Indigo Child. However, your most important source of inspiration on dealing with your child is your heart and intuition. No one knows and loves your child as you do. Discuss and plan with the child systems to make life easier for both of you.
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Nature Nurtures The Spirit & Builds The Body
Children who have the opportunity to play in nature have a heightened awareness of the world. Being in nature helps them to recognize the cycles of life and the interdependence of plants, animals and humans.
They also have more advanced coordination, balance and agility. When they are involved in physical play, they develop their lungs and muscles which means they are sick less often. Being in nature creates a resilient spirit and a bounce-back attitude.
All likeable people behave in certain ways. They literally have a “magnetic” personality drawing others to them. The advantages of being likeable are numerous, including higher grades and income, self-esteem, better health, longer life and happiness and well-being.
There are more good people in the world and they are full of love and reflected in everything they do. On the other hand, there are also bad people in the world filled with hatred. If our world was full of evil people, there would be far more tragedies similar to the one that took place at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Connecticut.
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New research shows that all likeable children behave in certain ways. These skills are not in-born but can be taught by parents, teachers and other caring adults. There is a language of likeability that some children cannot pick up by osmosis, but must learn. It has been called“shorthand” to making friends.